my mom is coming to town and im 5 months pregnant how should i tell her she coming in 5 days and she just called me!!!! my f**king Ex knocked me up!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-16 17:20:25 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Ok so i was kind of in a bad mooded when i wrote the first one, because me and my bestfreind made out and know she wont talk to me. but any way me and my mom dont get along well.thats way i HATE when my mom comes!
2007-12-16 17:49:50 · update #1
Don't spring it on her straight away unless she notices and asks you, then telling her is half way there as you don't need to say "I'm pregnant"...she will tell you.
Telling her you are bi is only nessessary if you have a female lover at home whilst Mum is visiting.
2007-12-16 17:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you can, keep a sense of humor about it - pretend you're a character in a TV dramedy - and when your mom arrives, sit her down and say, "I've got some interesting bad news, and some more interesting bad news. One of them I could use your help with. Which would you like to hear first?" Then start with the one you think she's going to accept to a greater degree. Don't be flip about it - both are serious things to a parent - but let her know that you're capable of handling the situation, maybe with a little help from her. I would strongly suggest NOT telling her by email, telephone, or letter. Both are too personal for those approaches.
2007-12-17 01:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by TitoBob 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her before she comes by sending her a well thought out and edited e-mail. Title the e-mail "Important and private" and make sure it's in the subject line and in the first line of the message.
Make sure you take your time and explain everything. Let her know what you want to do with the baby and what you want from her. Remember, this is your baby and that makes it your responsibility to take care of it. Don't expect or demand anything. If you're confused and are looking for help, your mother should be one person who can help you make your decisions. But always remember it's your baby, your body, and your decision: she only has an opinion.
2007-12-17 01:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by billymccluskey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell her upfront. Just call her and tell her "hey, I have something I need to tell you now before you get here...". Just tell her. She is your mom, and most moms arent going to disown you because you are pregnant. She may even be happy about it not only for you, but because she will have a new grandbaby. As far as the bi part, if I were you I wouldnt bother unless you have a girlfriend that you are in a serious relationship with.
2007-12-17 01:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by Somaesthesia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to tell her you're pregnant anyway, so just sit her down and explain the situation. She may not take it very well at 1st, but after all, this now concerns her grandchild. Don't tell her you're bi for a while yet. Let the lady get over this shocker first.
2007-12-17 01:25:11 · answer #5 · answered by moosies 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave the bi part out for now. Tell her about the pregnancy if you want her to know. If not, don't tell her. I'm sure if you have a close relationship with her that she'd wanna know. If you aren't close, it's all up to you. I'd wait til later to throw the bi thing on her though. You might give her a heart attack. Unless she's like my mother, I wouldn't mind giving her one. j/k (kind of)
2007-12-17 01:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Kym♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mmmm, i would just sit her down and tell her. Expect her to rant, or be angry, or be sad, or be happy, or anything really (I have no idea what your mom is like so I don't know how she would take this news).
FIRST, i would tell her that you are nervous about what you are going to tell her. If you're scared, tell her that, too. She needs to know that you aren't just some wild child. If you need her help, ask her for that, too.
Don't be afraid to wear your cards on your sleeve here. Pull all of them out, and then pray for the strength to face the consequences of your actions and your mother's.
2007-12-17 01:24:44 · answer #7 · answered by Lissa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't we keep the bi last but first you should just sit down with her and ex plane you are pregnant. I'm sure she will be fine with it, but you don't want to give her a double shock so take one thing at a time.
2007-12-17 01:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by Sapphire 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You wont have to tell her, she'll see for herself, or call her and tell her whats going on so as to you're being pregnant, then if you wish too you can fill her in on your choice of lifestyle.
Why put all the blame on the X? it takes two to tango.
2007-12-17 01:26:52 · answer #9 · answered by A Messi No More 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um... Really fast & be ready to run - or make an appointment for some therapy, then make sure she knows you're going to get some help, that ought to soften the blow. Best of luck.
2007-12-17 01:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by tiamaria2525 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋