Why did God allow my cousin to die so young????

Question

Two days ago my cousin of 23 years old who has had a difficult life involving drugs, alcohol, & depression killed himself. He was an amazing person and would do anything for anyone. He didn't have the best upbringing and a few months ago my aunt(his mom) got saved and she started talking to him about things and every now and then he'd go to church. He told her he hated himself and the way he was. He had talked about just killing himself b/c of his dislike for himself. He had gone to rehab and got out and we all thought he was doing better but I got a call 2 days ago and he drowned in a pond (the cops say there was no struggle) and I want to know WHY it is that God allowed him to die so young when there was a chance of him possibly getting saved and changing his life around? Im so depressed an sorrowful as well as the rest of my family and the funeral is in 2 days. My cousin was an amazing person with so much potential. I'll always ask myself "will I ever see him again?"

Answer 1

I'm so sorry for your loss. All I know is that the ways of God are unknown to Man. Maybe God had purposes for your cousin - maybe all he could learn on Earth was done. I don't know...

I think you will see him again. I believe that God is all-powerful and all-knowing, that His purposes are His own and that it was time for your cousin to leave. Include your cousin in your heart and prayers, and you will see him again.

God Bless.

Answer 2

By you speaking about this, you can potentially help others out. It is terrible that your cousin felt the need to end things, yet by his passing, greatness can come out if it. If you feel so strongly about this all, turn it into something positive. Work with others that may be depressed etc, work with charities, do whatever you can to help others so they don't lead the path your cousin.

Of course you will see your cousin again, he's probably sitting up on a cloud looking down and smiling upon you right now. Youll see him in time, for now though just always remember the great times you had with him, memories are a wonderful thing. Take care hun!

Answer 3

As sad as that is God does not interfere when people decide to kill themselves. God does not interfere with the choices anyone makes. Your cousin chose to die.

What should have been done was not rehab.

Instead, someone should have talked with him about his pain and suffering and try to make him understand that killing himself would have caused suffering with in his own family. Or at least try to get him to understand that who he is, was the person you and your family loved.

For your cousin, I asked that God add another 5 years to my sentance in purgatory (long story, and i wont tell it), and spare your cousin's soul from hell. If it comes at the cost of my own soul then so be it but i will make sure you see your cousin in heaven. This i say with honesty.

Answer 4

I am sorry for your loss. We are all given free agency, which means we have the power to make choices in life. God doesn't take that power away from us, nor your cousin. We don't always make the best choices in life, even if that means we end up hurting people that really care about us. Just remember everyone has the ability to choose for themselves, and Your cousin made the choice to end his life. If you decided to go run a marathon or get into drugs, God doesn't take that choice away from you. Cling to your family and that will get you through these hard times.

Answer 5

My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

How terribly sad. I don't know why people die so young. Sometimes there just aren't any answers.

Here's something I can tell you. Something that comes from psychology, not religion: When a person dies, aspects of him live on, and become an indelible part of those who loved him. I am not referring merely to memories. One actually takes on the most admired aspects of his personality. This has been well documented, and I've seen it a thousand times.

You appreciated your cousin's good qualities and his potential. I guarantee that some of those qualities will become your own. Perhaps you have seen it happen already.

Hang in there, okay?

Answer 6

No matter how hard people love to rant and rave about free will, God gave us choice. If God made us all robots, then sure the love toward him would be mechanical, but God desires a pure love toward him.
I really get tired of when someone dies they blame it on God, but when there is a miracle they say its the devil. Satan is just as real as you sitting there, and the only blame is on a parent or guardian who didn't cry out to God always for their soul, you blame this on God, yet we have schools who don't allow God in them, and governments who is against God, and atheist screaming God don't exist. back years ago there was not a such thing as suicide, people feared God to much, the beginning of wisdom is fear of the Lord.
It is a sad thing, but I am not persuaded by these God hating wicked atheist, My hope is stead fast, But with there strong desire to rid themselves of a God that will judge them, they have done nothing but brought confusion to people of little faith, the devil is here to kill, steal, and destroy, best bet is ignore their rants as true Christians do, God did not desire that child to die, but demons who plagued his mind drew him to that point.

Answer 7

God allow a person to choose to sin or not to sin
God allow a person to have a choice Just like adam and eve
so as to cousin choice to kill himself
is like asking why you choose to ask this question
and why not to some extense it is better to die a quick death and to die a slow death both still are the choices of some people

Answer 8

You will see your cousin again ... in Heaven. Perhaps God wanted him to be in Heaven now instead of later because there are not drugs and alcohol and no depression there ... I'll pray for both of you for the next three months ... hang in there, and PRAY to God to help you handle this loss. It does help ... I lost a daughter at 10 weeks old to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome over 30 years ago, and it still 'hurts' but not so much because I KNOW SHE IS WITH GOD.

Answer 9

life is as long as a piece of string, which can be any length.

you can't blame God for allowing this to happen. if it was suicide then it was by his own volition was it not? and therefor not God's. but no one can read the heart, he may have never repented, God only knows.

the king of death reigns over the physical body, and no man/woman knows their hour... but experience and reason tell us that we all face it at some point. i am indeed sorry for your loss... but fret not, God doesn't make mistakes... in the end we will all see and know that He is perfectly just.

Answer 10

Sorry.
I know it hurts.
If you believe in God and heaven then you already know that you will see him again and that it was some part of a "greater need".

Your cousin may have affected some other person in a positive way. Someone in rehab maybe.
There may be something in this incident that will change the lives of many, many people.

You know that your prayers are not always answered in the manner that you desired.

You don't know that a suicide happened.

Answer 11

From what I even have come to comprehend is that people who're not waiting to undstand or have not been presented to the certainty of God (salvation and all that groovy things) then they don't look to be held in charge. So hence bypass to heaven.