Okay well I'm a freshman in highschool and recently told this girl that I was in love with her, I have known her for about 5-6 months, but she has a b/f and she sorta gave a "Well me and my b/f have something good going and I don't really wanna dump him because it's going good and we have been going out for 4 months." and even though she is the only one I think about, I somewhat want to see if there is anyone else out there for me but I cannot seem to find anyone that interests me. I mean yes there are a few cute and nice girls I know but I don't have the feelings for them that I have for this girl, any help or advice for any of this?
2007-12-16 16:46:05 · 6 answers · asked by Cam73ghs73 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well to add to this I have fear of rejection problems and a major shyness issue as well, any tips as to getting over these as well?
2007-12-16 16:51:34 · update #1
ur still young and got LOTSSS of time to meet someone.
when i was younger i kinda thought the same way and eventually ur gonna meet sumone.if she has a bf back off of her and just let it be, sumone will eventually catch ur eye and you'll forget bout her.One thing i can def tell u is take ur time with dating. ur gonna have plenty of opportunities ahead waiting for you and plus ur really youngg!
Wish yaa luck!!!
2007-12-16 16:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have the "only like what you can't have syndrome" going on.
You have to find some way of breaking the spell. Right now she seems so much better than everyone else but she's really not. You can say this to yourself all you want but making your whole self believe it is the key and a little bit harder to do.
The first step is to take away the guilt for wanting her. This is part of the buzz you feel when you think about her. Remind yourself that it's OK to want her, to have feelings for her. Act on those feelings if you want to. Don't try to stuff them down or feel guilty about them. Embrace them. Go after her as much as you want.
If you do this one of two things will happen. Either you'll be successful and happy and get the girl. Or your frustration will get the better of you, or you'll get tired of being rejected and you'll say, "screw this. I'm outta here." But you will stop pining for her, and you will learn a valuable lesson. And you'll not repeat your mistake again. And, i believe, you will turn your attention towards someone else.
The reason you're not interested in others is because you're spending all your romantic energy with this girl. You're throwing all your energy in a direction where it's not likely to produce anything for you. But, like I said, the only way out of this is through those feelings. Don't be afraid of them.
2007-12-16 17:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have considered the girls feelings before you went after her like that. She now is probably really divided over her bf and you, and is most likely very confused right now about her feelings. I know what you mean by "That girl" but sometimes "that girl" is not always "the girl". You just need to figure out hat you honestly believe is best for you and for others. Get to know some f the other girls because you never know what can happen, a little conversation can lead to a lot on you mind. Give the other girls a chance.
2007-12-16 16:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by GL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I'm going to sound like your grandmother but don't be in a hurry to start doing it. I started young and always wished I hadn't. I got pregnant right off and have been a single parent to 2 children. I'm 55 years old. I've been married and divorced 3 times, I thought they were all the right person for me, and I didn't give it alot of thought about hw I really felt about them first. You don't need the pressure of whether or not you are in a relationship. Take your time and go to a few parties and enjoy yourself without any of the hangups. Don't do it until you are very sure this is what you feel comfortable with. not even your parents should make you feel that you have to be in a relationship. Wait for the right one. That's always the best answer. Good luck.
2016-05-24 07:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your young...move on...she will dump him eventually and then try again when shes single...but for now date date date...trust me....
2007-12-16 16:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget her and if you want, wait for your shot. Really, move on...
2007-12-16 16:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by FeverLust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋