Afraid to love because he's afraid to die?

Question

At first I was thinking of posting it in the Singles & Dating category, but the nature of this problem is somewhat strange so I decided it would be more appropriate to ask here.

I have a guy friend who dated this girl around two years ago. I actually know this girl a bit, she's sweet, kind, loves children, popular, pretty, and gets along well with people. My friend and his family was poor btw, but he saved what he could for that girl. However, she wasn't so nice as she seemed. During that time she was with my friend, she was actually sleeping with someone else. Eventually my friend found out but before he could speak his mind to her, she called him one night and gave him the typical BS "I'm sorry, we have to call it off because I'm going to migrate to *insert country here* and I don't want to leave anything behind." Heartbroken, he asked her if they could meet in person so he could be granted closure and she agreed. *continued below*

He also intended to tell her when they meet up that he knows she's cheating. They were to meet a week later at Starbucks. A few days before the appointed date, he was hospitalized for a deadly condition he had (i forgot what). Seeing that this was the last of his days, he was looking forward to talk to that girl in person so that at least he would have closure when he passed away. Somehow he was allowed to leave the hospital for that day and he went to that Startbucks where they where gonna meet. But the girl didn't arrive and she just texted him "I'm sorry something came up." and didn't bother to explain. She never replied or answered to his calls. He then sank to a deep depression, thinking what kind of a selfish person would do this to him, especially when he's dying. Miraculously, he survived but the hospital bills and all made his family much more poorer. It's been two years since that incident. *continued below*

And this happened also on Christmas, adding more to his depression. So now he contacted me recently telling me how he's feeling down that it's Christmas season and he still hasn't gotten over what happened. And he's still depressed that he's afraid to fall in love again, since it reminds him of that time when he almost died. Bottomline is, love=death for him and now I don't know what to do or tell him.

So now, what do I do or tell my friend? Honestly I can't think of anything smart since I've had my share of heartbreak myself.

Additional question: Does his situation count as a "trauma" and does he need professional psychiatric help?

It's really sad when you hear him telling the details of what happened. He would tell me he wished that it would only be him affected and not his family by what she did. He would tell me how his family had barely enough to feed himself and his little brother and sisters. He keeps saying "What kind of an evil hypocrite ***** would leave a family starving? What kind of an evil ***** would ruin an innocent family's life and run away without taking any bit of responsibility?!?!"

And it gets scary when he tells me he wants to take revenge. He would tell me so many "ideas" of how to ruin her life just to get even. Of course I know he's just very angry and just letting out steam.

Answer 1

What the heck...is there a question here?

Answer 2

You can tell him none of us are promised tomorrow anyone can die in a instance. Sounds like this girl did him a favor by leaving him before they were married and had children. When one door closes another one opens. Maybe miss wrong needed to leave so he could make room for Miss right.

Tell him not to let miss wrong torture him anymore go out and live like there is no tomorrow. Is it better to have loved and lost or to have never loved at all? I vote for the love it is something you cannot buy.