Loosing Virginity?

Question

Im 14.
Im Kinky as hell
Im a Virgin
I like the dude
The dude likes me 2 n hes a virgin aswell and were are pretty much the only 2 virgins.

My body feels like its giving me hint that im ready.
My opinions on sex have changed a bit.
Everyone i know lost it when they were 13 so im the oldest virgin but im not worried what they think because i consider sex a personal matter I wont freak n tell.

And i know everyones gonna write saying "OMG NOES DONT DO IT!!!1111" but i want opinions from teens with the same problem plz be honest i answer me with ur solid opinion not something thats been shoved down the throghts of teenagers for years by saying "NO NO NO NO NO" if u think no then plz give me reasons and personal experiences NOT insults nor patrinazation

btw im not one for the whole

"LOVE"

thing as bad as it is a feel more like a dude who wants a booty call.

Answer 1

ok here it is rational reasons I hope you are rational enough to truly take them to heart
1. At fourteen there is no way your cervix is fully formed/matured. Having vaginal intercourse when your cervix is still undergoing rapid celluar changes as it is at your age puts you at an extrememly high risk of developing cervical dysplasia and cervical cancer before you are even 25 years old.... by waiting as little as 2 years you will improve the chances of not getting cervical cancer by more than 50% providig that you have also had your series of 3 guardisil shots..... which leads me to #2 Have you had all three of your guardisil shots? theya re meant to be given to girls who are VIRGINS most doctors will not give them to girls who have already had sex. Do you know that cervical cancer is at epidemic preportions in girls in the generation right before yours due to having sex at such an early age and the epidemic spread of H.P.V. ????
#3. have you been to a gyno yet and had a pelvic? You should have oe prior to having sex for a baseline
#4. Do you have a trusted doctor who you can go to without your parents knowing about it when you get a Urinary Tract Infection ( you have an 85% percent chance of getting oe when you become sexually active ) do you have the money to pay that doctor and the pharmacy for the antibiotics?
#5. Do you have the money for yeast infection medicine and for condoms and for birth control?
#6 Are you prepared ( and is this "last virgin guy " )prepared to handle and emergency in regards t your health? n Like a UTI that turns to a kidney infection? An Eptopic Pregnancy? Miscarriage?
#7. Are you prepared to deal with the gossip that follows you when you begin having sex?? Don't think that just because there are other girls having sex this won''t be a painful issue for you, believe me, adult women do this, people love to sit in judgement and people love to talk about scandle and heartbreak
#8. It is going to hurt, ALOT the first few times
#9, Even once it stops hurting the odds of you having an orgasm at your age via vaginal intercourse is almost 0%.... So you are only going to be getting him off.... but this kinky side of you, this itch of desire you feel WILL NOT be sated by sex.... it will be an excersise in frustration for you.
#10 Has this boy of yours led you to orgasm by manual stimulation or oral sex yet? If not, then why on earth would you go through the pain of vaginal sex for sex I promise you will not bring you to orgasm?
Anyway those are facts for you... I really don't care what you do... I won't preach morals or religion. I am just for strong and smart women and they just don't usually come from girls having sex at 14.... those girls usually end up broken and wounded by life and pathetic. That's it for me sweetie, whatever you decide, good luck.... actually it has little to do with luck it is all about GOOD CHOICES and that is solely up to you

Answer 2

I don't think you should do it. Reasons being:

1) Your body is going haywire with hormones at the moment, so you can't trust any 'hints' you think it's giving. Also, as I'm sure you know from the detail in your question, sex shouldn't be about the physical, it should be what your heart and head are telling you that you're ready for.

2) What is your relationship with this guy? Your details seem to say that you both want to lose it cos you both still got it. Where's the emotion, the love, the caring? Sex is a very intimate act and you'll quickly find out that it's often best with a partner you love, but especially with your first time.

3) Does your partner even know what he's doing? Has he even fully matured yet? I mean, obviously he can get an erection but what about sustaining it?

4) Ask yourself how many of your friend's regret their first time? And don't listen to the ones who just did it to be cool, they'll never admit it was a stupid thing to do. Or are they too young yet to know how bad it was? Every last one of my friends lost theirs young and have regretted it forever. I lost mine at the age of 22 and even though I'm no longer with this person, I don't regret a minute it. I will forever remember a warm sweet person who was incredibly considerate. Make no mistake, this is something you will remember for the rest of your life, and this guy... for the rest of your life!

5) After you first have sex, you must have a pap smear every year afterward. Not a pleasant experience :(

6) You claim to be mature and virginal yet you also claim to be kinky - I question whether you know what that word even means. Maybe you should do your homework on this topic first.

7) Protection does not always cover STDs. You claim he's a virgin but since you don't seem to be dating him, can you be sure? Pregnancy can happen despite whatever precautions you take, NOTHING will protect you 100% from either of these things. Think about it.

Answer 3

What do you think are the pros of loosing your virginity before marriage? It varies from ppl to ppl, some dont care some do care. You'll experience the sensation between two ppl, sharing bodies, exploring the position etc. it can be done between any relationships, both opposite sexes and same. What you do think are the pros of staying a virgin until marriage? There's peer pressure, but you'll be a better person and respect yourself as a person and ppl would do the same and you'll be clear from trouble that causes from sex. There's also the urge to lose it like you wanna do it but not sure either. Be assertive. What are the cons of loosing your virginity before marriage? Loads, pregnancy or being a young mother and doing ur duties as a responsible mother. STI/STDs the shite that comes in the way, contraceptive issues. may get urself a reputation of being called a slut or wh0re etc. What are the cons of staying a virgin until marriage? peer pressue or guys insulting you. or taking advantage etc..

Answer 4

When you can be totally ok with being naked, with the lights on in front of him then that's a sign you may be ready. You also have to be comfortable talking about condoms and how to properly put them on and use them. And what if's like what if you get pregnant? Or get an STD? Are you sure he's a virgin too? At 14 you can get horny, it's called puberty. It also isn't a race to see who can have sex first. Girl virgins are way cool until they are like 30, then it is time to worry. You have time. Plus no one can call you slutty if you aren't having sex.

Answer 5

It doesn't matter about who's doing who. I'm 23 and have 6 friends in my age group, and 4 of them are still virgins. I'm not only because I've been married before. Hormones have a way of tricking you into thinking you're ready. Trust me though... its not all that great. It's gonna hurt like hell the first time and you'll bleed (thats your "cherry popping"). As you get older, and you meet the right guy... you're gonna wish you would have saved everything for him. I lost mine through marriage (now divorced), and I wish I could still be a virgin. Now, the man I'm really meant to be with won't get that.

Answer 6

Well im 18 an i will b 19 next week (YEAH!!) But 4realz i lost mine wen i wuz 16, i wanted 2 wait untill i wuz marride but it happend, ppl make mistakez blah blah blah. I think u shouldnt do it unless ur in love and u know he wont diz u after it lol but 4realz u only get 1 FIRST TIME, dont do it just cause ur horny...cuz babe horny dont last long....but id say pleeeeeeaze really think about it for a couple of dayz b4 u give ur self 2 anyone.......cuz like i said u only get 1 first time......and dont u want it 2 be special cuz it can b...u dont have 2 do anything ur not ready 4...juss think bout it..(PROMISE!! :-( ME?)

Answer 7

Well, im a teen! and im a virgin! my best friend lost it a while ago! but she regret's it alot!


And i mean yeah you may think your ready and stuff! but you might regret it later on! And dont you want it to be special you said that you " Like this guy " i mean, is it worth it. Losing your virginity to someone you like isnt all that, losing it to someone you LOVE. and you might stay a while with or have a future with is better. Besides im christian it' s a sin. lol


But yeah, dont do it because you think it's cool, and your friends are doing it. Trust me the guy you lose it to one day! Will respect you more, and it's gonna be more speciail girl :))



I hope that helpeddd.

Answer 8

omg im sorry but ur young... But only you can make that choice.. If you think your ready then do it but u might regret it later and wished u would of waited. So you know what everyones going to say so why did u post the ? cause everyone can say dont do it but its ur life and choice..

Just think it out and if u do be careful...Think of are you ready if you'd get pregnant, or what would you do if you got an std or something

Answer 9

Sweetheart your 14yrs. Be proud of being a virgin. You can't get that back. Date but don't feel like you have to give in so soon. Your still a puppy. Wait a while longer. It will be worth it. Worry about school. It's easy to give it up. Getting an education is not that easy and you will need that to survive.

Answer 10

You won't know you're ready until you really are. I thought I was ready as well until I was put in the situation and I realized I wasn't. It's not something that other people can tell you their experiences as everyone develops differently. If you feel comfortable as it's happening then, you're ready. If you feel even the slightest bit uncomfortable then you aren't and you should wait.