Help with my parents!?

Question

My dad always yells at me and can never control himself. one minute he loves me the next minute he hates me. He always says I never respect him but I can't even remember the last time he showed me respect. He just had surgery and I know he is in pain but he was like this before surgery. He tells me and my mom are stupid and that we have no common sense. He yells at me because my showers are too long or I use too much electricity but he has 6 motorcycles and a new truck and he says I can't even have a cell phone. I am 13 and my mom is never this harsh. All the other guts my age dont have parents this cruel. I will lie awake in my bed for hours crying and I keep thinking that I should just kill myself because my parents treat me like ****. My mom will always tell me that I dont do certain things right and in my parents eyes nothing I do is right. I always try tohold back my anger but sometimes i just can't help my self bcau I feel so unloved and horrible.

PLEASE HELP ME !!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

I was in your position too sweetie. I am now 16 and my life is still really really tough. I am not going to sit here and tell you everything is going to get better, because it wont. it will get worse before it gets better. but hear my out okay?

when i was 13 my step dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer, and he was the biggest ******** in the world, and i hated him so much but i felt so sorry for him. Surgery is a scarey thing for some people. and after my step dad got the surgery he was still a ********, and used his surgery as an excuse. he took it out on me, and my mom, and my half brother. and on top of that he is an alcoholic. then my real dad was released from prison after 13 years of my life. and he wants nothing to do with me.

i was a really realy bad kid, i got into so much trouble, so my mom was coming down on me. its tough being 13 and knowing your parents hate you, and i wanted to kill myself too, and to be honest ive tried twice already. but i will tell you this, KILLING YOURSELF AINT WORTH IT!

because of them, i put myself in counseling in school and outside of school. sometimes its just good to talk to people about your life and how you feel, it helps. i am now very bipolar becaause i held all my anger in. but i know your a strong person, and i know you feel really heartbroken and hurt, but your parents do love you...they may not say it but they do. my mom stopped telling me she loved me 8 years ago, and she still wont say it.

things will get better, just stay strong. if you need anyone to talk to....email me at [e-mail] i am here to talk to.

Answer 2

when we're in a rough situation, we think we're the only one who has suffered so much. It feels like the whole world is against us and that nobody loves us that we really want to end all this by taking our lives.

Here's what, you are not alone. If it's any consolation, just think that there are those who are in a far worse situation than you are in right now.... and triumphed. So, don't give up hope, ok.

You are thirteen, the age when you discover a lot of things about yourself and about the world. The age when sometimes you feel you're in a crossroad and have to choose the right path. The age when you think that people are against you because you can't do what you want to do. it is the age of what i call the great struggle....

but, you'll soon find out that if you hold on, doing things that are right, being patient as long as it takes, and persevering to move forward in life then, you would be a very strong person. A person who can meet up to the challenges in life, never gives up hope, and triumphant in every way. You would love yourself and be thankful for ALL the things you've been through in life for that is what has made you: YOU.

hang on there, ok.

Answer 3

Don't take what I am about to say personally.
You sound like a typical 13-year-old. They all think their parents don't love them. They all seem to take it as an insult if anybody suggests a way of improving. No matter how much their parents really love them, they think their parents can't stand them.
It's just part of being 13.
I know this doesn't get rid of the feelings. But it may help you to know these feelings are not unusual, and are not accurate, and that they will change with age. Keep in mind that this is a difficult age for anybody. You can get through it.

Answer 4

When you laid in bed upset just remind yourself that when you get married and have kids that you never treat you children the same way your parents treats you. Promise yourself that you are going to be the best mom in the world. Swear highly to yourself that you will be a positive and supportive of your own family.

You are 13 year old and you have been really strong so far don't give up your dreams of life. Let no one short change of your plans for your future. You must keep in mind you're not going to always be under their roof. When you move out and have your own place to live. You'll look back and thank God for being strong. God bless

Answer 5

When I was your age, I had a difficult time with my mother...she was mean, hurtful, and even hit me from time to time. Later, I found out it was because my grandfather left me everything after his passing and not her.

That's when I was 13...I am now 22. And my parents and I have a beautiful relationship.

My advice to you is...just relax and take a deep breath. If they speak to you...just answer them quickly but sweet. Don't ever back-talk...it will make it worse. Do your chores without question. And find a good book to get lost into...that way all your problems go away.

Please don't ever think about killing yourself. Life DOES get better. Your 13 now...still many years to go. And once you move out when your 18 it does get better with the parents. My cousin, she almost committed suicide because her mother and father treated her like crap...now she's 24 getting married, has a great paying job and just published her first book.

Bite your tongue and hang in there. If problems get worse, if there is a family member that is close...like an grandparents, aunt or uncle...call them and tell them your situation. They will be glad to help you out.

Answer 6

parents might not like there kids at certain times but they all ways love them. that is what is so goo an bad at the same time, sometimes we think are parents hate us but just about the opposite they love us. don't worry too mush. think about how maybe in like 4 years you are going to graduate high school and you will go to college far far away. if i told you i know how you feel i would be lying to you cause i don't but try to stay taff. i can imagine what you are going through. it shows that you are a strong person to stay so taff. don't do anything that you will regret. stay taff. and always that you can always talk to me if things get too taff at home. you can always write here and people will give you comfort. you are not alone. si think the situation that you are in will make a stronger as a person and self aware. when you grow up and have kids you will be a better mom because you will not want your kids to go through the things that you went trough as a teenager.you will be fine. parents are sometimes hard to deal with. put all your focus toward your school and you will get in a great university maybe then you will move out
an be happy.stay Strong. my motto is "Be happy, don't worry." love yourself care for yourself respect yourself. i love you and i hope everything turns out great. have faith.

Answer 7

Okay....you know who you are, dont let other people tell you who you are first of all..
common things like not using too much water or electricity is fine, but maybe they dont want a monthly bill for a cell phone, try a tracfone? that's what my friends daughter has, and my cousin.

tell them how you feel though. especially the unloved part!

sometimes you might do things wrong, it's okay. everybody makes mistakes. but if you feel the littlest things are being analyzed, bring it to their attention.
you will be fine, and before you know it , you will be able to move out.

focus on the good in life. =] i'm here if you want to talk.

Answer 8

Sounds about like the typical house hold to me. 9 out of 10 kids at the teenage years hate their parents. Tell them that you feel unloved. I know it will be hard but do it. Just be there for them but also don't take to heart what they say,you know deep down they don't mean it. Keep your distance for a while.

Answer 9

my parents were like that too, just ignore them stay in your room and pretend that is doesn't bother you. Do your own stuff and don't think about suicide life goes on.