My dad i a drug addict. He lives with me, my husband, and my step-daugther. Also I'm taking care of my brother. Recently I suspect he's fallen of the wagon cause he should have enough money to move out but he said he doesn't have any money. He went to the hospital 2 days ago, he said he was going to kill himself, and he won't call me back. I'm unsure of what to do. I can't take the stress of him living with us anymore, but I don't want him to go off the deep end if I tell him he needs to get out of the house and it's CHRISTMAS! I want to ask him to to an oxford house. I don't want to feel responsisble if he kills himself cause I asked him to move out. Any advice apprecaited
2007-12-16 15:29:33 · 5 answers · asked by msulli2366 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am so sorry, first of all. You definitely need to talk to another adult- another family member, if possible, or talk to a psych ward at the nearest hospital.
My dad just tried to commit suicide out of depression and ended up there. They really helped him out, and he's doing fantastic now.
Good luck and I wish the best for you...
2007-12-16 15:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all... you cannot trust any addict because he will lie, cheat and steal from anybody to get his next fix. He will play any kind of psycho junk on you to get him what he wants... a place to stay where he can sit and be messed-up.
This is placing you under tremendous stress and isn't doing your dad any favors.
You need to call his doctor at that hospital and ask him for assistance in getting your dad admitted into some kind of facility where they can hold onto him for a while. See what options are available to you.
He is in the process of killing himself right now anyway. Nothing you could do would change the direction of his current path, unless he gets into some kind of real treatment that turns him around. Don't let him lay a guilt trip on you.
Failing that, you need to tell your dad that he needs to get on his own two feet and get out of your house by ___ date. Sometimes a shock like that will make them sober up at least long enough to look up.
2007-12-16 16:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Addicts often play the "guilt" card. Even if he did kill himself, you didn't do anything to cause him to do it. It was the drugs. They are ruining his mind. With this said, he is probably scared and sad and full of regret.
I know it will be a lot of work but can you help him find a treatment center that will take him and help him get his life back on track? He needs to take responsibility for his life. You can't do it for him, it's something only he can do for himself.
Also, try going to a couple of al-anon meeting. You will be among other people who are in similar situations.
I wish you well with everything. Hope it all works out!
2007-12-16 15:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by asldfkjdfj 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well admit him into a suicidal hospital. He is a threat to himself and your family, I know it sounds bad cause he is your dad but get him some help. He needs it. Good luck hope everything goes good with whatever you decide to do.
2007-12-16 15:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by mslilmama03 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to get advice from a professional. but he does more.
A gift certificate for counsiling for Xmas?
2007-12-16 15:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋