ohkayy. well my boyfriend for almost four months used to be all that "lovey-dovey" and really sweet. im in highschool..but we are in two different districts so i only really see him on the weekends. well recently he hasnt been talking to me as much..and his messages are getting shorter and shorter [to the point of a few words].. and he hasnt said i love you in a while..even though ive told him twice. a lil after this started happening, i noticed that he had a really good amount of convo with this girl whos homeschooled. they went out last year but had to break up cuz of her parents.. she got over him but he never seemed to stop liking her. well now they have planned a xmas party together..and im invited..but ive gotten exTREMELy jealous.. cuz i feel like i have no competition. i think he still likes her.. but i dont know how to bring it up with either of them. are they getting too close or am i over reacting.?
2007-12-16 15:12:42 · 11 answers · asked by blahblah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well.. i ended up brining it up with her. shes also my friend. she says shes sorry and she didnt think so..and i belive her cuz she never lies...but that doesnt mean he doesnt like her either...
2007-12-16 15:42:57 · update #1
Sounds like they are getting too close to me. Better ask him.
2007-12-16 15:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by Runa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting.
You are using your 'sixth sense' and basic observation of what is /is not going on with your relationship.
Is there something going on between them? Hard to say, but if I were a betting person, I'd say even if there wasn't something going on now, it is moving that direction.
The questions you have to ponder are:
What can you do to affect this? - Not much, really. I'd suggest trying to let your b/f know that you are uncomfortable with the closeness you've noticed between him and his ex g/f & that you've been feeling left out. It could be they're just friends, but I'm not getting that from what you've described.
How do you think you'll handle it if he's decided he doesn't like you or if you find he's been seeing this girl? Think about it now so that if you find it out, it's not a shock. (Sort of the 'Don't ask questions unless you can handle the answer' approach.) Remember, above all else, you are in high school and you've your life in front of you. Don't get wrapped up in this guy & be prepared to move on.
2007-12-16 23:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by David M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh! So glad I'm not in HS anymore... Boys can be really thoughtless... I don't think you're over-reacting but if you confront him and are wrong about your suspicions he will feel that you don't trust him and it will create a wedge between you that you won't be able to overcome. If I were you I would become friends with the home schooled girl too. If you are her friend and they are not hooking up then it might even bring you and your boyfriend closer together but IF he is trying to hook up with her then she would be a real jerk to hook up with her friends boyfriend... know what I mean? It is easy to cheat when you only know one of the people involved... If she has any decency at all it will be very hard for her to hook up with him if she is your friend...
2007-12-16 23:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by Diana Prince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say you're in the right mind to be in your situation..
i'm a guy and i'm in high school..and i know what its like, actually, i've done it, subconsciously...
my girlfriend just came to me one day while we were at school and asked me she could talk to me during one of my free periods. I got kind of nervous, that it was going to be one of those break-up conversations, but she basically flat out said "hey, I was just wondering if we were still together, cause it seems like you're spending a lot more tmie with the other girl"
basically, I took the hint, and I was like crap, am I really spending more time with this other girl?
I wouldn't worry about being absurd, just subtly bring it up and tell him how u feel... after all, you are his girlfriend?
and if u tell him nicely and just queitly probe, he'll have the same respect to take the hint
trust me, i was haning out with the otehr girl who was my ex, because I knew we were still friends... personal experience - i think guys don't get over ex's as easily as girls
good luck!
2007-12-16 23:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say they might be getting to close. Deffinatly pay attention to them at the christmas party and see how they act toward each other. Its kind of hard to tell maybe hes just been busy but he might still like her especially if they were spending enough time together to plan a party. of course he really likes you but maybe he needs some more time to get over her (idk y its been a year) but maybe hes not the guy for you. I agree you should just ask him about it, maybe your totally wrong but its worth finding out if you are. and i deffinatly dont think ur over reactting.
2007-12-16 23:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by Lillian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the good news is that your boy gets hung up on girls that leave him behind (even if it's because her parents made her do it).
Leave him. I bet he'll try and get you back. And if he doesn't, you'll be free to meet a guy who doesn't get hung up on past flames.
Best of luck!
2007-12-16 23:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by kflakerooni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it's not overreacting But I would suggest going to that christmas party and look like you're worth a million bucks.
2007-12-16 23:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they are just friends.. i think the more you analyze it the more annoying you get to him.. take a step back and look at it with a little more calmness... and at the party you can tell by the body language.. and your dating a guy in a diff district.... idk.. but i think its definatly something you need to bring up.. but ild back off a little bit.. let him breathe or something kid.
2007-12-16 23:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they might be closer than you think, but you certainly arent over reacting... ask him and see what he says... if he says he's not with her and they're just friends, go to the party and see who he spends more time with, you or her... if he spends more time with her, dump him
2007-12-16 23:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by gammaraze 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i don`t think you are over reacting.
Kinda sounds like they are getting back together.
Sorry young lady.
2007-12-16 23:19:35 · answer #10 · answered by skunk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋