Hello, this is a Korean girl who is meeting her white boyfriend in 5 days. We've been talking online for 6 months and he's coming here to spend time with me. and I'd like to know if I'm overweight or not :). I'm 5'4 and 132lbs. I'm not "fat" but not skinny either. I have a bit of tummy and got some butt. Hmm will he like me? He says I love you and makes me soo happy. He's very sincere too. I'm nervous about this meeting and please advice me about the date:) Thank you guys.
2007-12-16 15:11:24 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actually, you have the hardest part out of the way...he's seen you from the inside out and apparently there's something about you that makes him want more of you. Beauty comes from the inside - yes, physical attraction plays a part in it, but he already likes you for who you are...not what you look like. No one is perfect, just be yourself and let the rest fall into place.
Good luck, I know how exciting the first meeting is!
2007-12-16 15:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kiki 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he's content with the relationship exactly the way it is now, and that he has no desire to take it further. The excuses, and reasons you can't come there, announce loud and clear that he does not want to meet you. Maybe he's scared he'll disappoint, or be disappointed, when and if you meet in person. Maybe he's ashamed of some aspect of his appearance, his home, or something else you'd only learn of if you met--like his wife or live-in girlfriend. Maybe he's unwilling to make any kind of commitment, even to meeting, for reasons he doesn't understand himself. In any case, if this were me I'd give him one last shot at meeting where he lives (so that whole wife thing can be cleared up), being up-front about it being a last opportunity. Make it clear that if he evades it as he has all the others, you'll understand that he doesn't want to meet you. If it doesn't happen, stop taking his calls and move on.
2016-05-24 07:14:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not fat....is he expecting someone really thin? If so,you may want to send him a recent photo...be very careful meeting him...do so in a public place...do not go anywhere too private..have a friend on speed dial and call them if you need to on a bathroom break...you should be nervous..he is a stranger and he may have been lying to you all this time...he will probably try to pressure you to have sex...DO not do this and do not put yourself in a compromising situation...also do not let him stay with you or give him any personal information..be safe and write down his personal information when he is not looking ---look in his wallet for his drivers license or jokingly say you do not believe his age and ask to see it...or just tell him the truth..you don't know him and want some assurances...be careful!
2007-12-16 15:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by safiyafadil 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's much safer to meet him at a public place first such as restaurant or coffee house... I dont know about inviting him over to your house right away. That's a bit dangerous. I'm just trying to air on the safe side since most guys can appear to be nice online and even on the phone but may be that's not who they are. Seriously consider it! Meet in a public place first and if it turns out that you both get along or whatever, then you can invite him back to your place.
2007-12-16 15:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it during this time you've exchanged photos already, right? In the time you've been together online, you've had a chance to reveal yourself and personal details to him, and likewise he revealed personal details about himself to you. If he and you have been sincere & honest to each other all should go well. However, "IF" is the biggest two-letter word in the English language -- I don't know the proper Korean word for "if" -- is it: …인지 어떤지 in this case?
No, you are not overweight & he already said he loves you! Best of luck to you now & in the future!!!
2007-12-16 15:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by Andy K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just use precations. you never meet him before except on line. a guy who has never been with you and said that he loves you is a guy to be really wery off. meet in a public place. you cannot really now a person you ahvnt meet. sure online he acan make it sound really great and sincere, but untill you have meet him in person and really get to know him. spend time with him. he should like you for who you are. be very careful.
2007-12-16 15:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by six_blueangels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing to worry about. You're in good shape. Advice? Just be yourself! Remember, if he's in love with you and sincere enough in everything, I guess, he will accept you no matter what. In case, he won't like you upon meeting him. It simply means that God will send another man that you deserve to spend your life with. Have fun!
2007-12-16 15:20:31 · answer #7 · answered by skeptical 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, he is NOT your boyfriend. He is a guy you know online.
You and he may think it's love, but it is not. It's infatuation, and you don't even know each other!
This is the WRONG way to go about having a relationship with someone, but at the very least, you'll learn from it!
2007-12-16 15:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by jasper addleton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a bit on the high side for your height but not seriously overweight. beware of someone who says he loves you but hasn't met you yet. I understand your being nervous about meeting this guy, but please be careful. often the real person is not who was portrayed online.
2007-12-16 15:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by wendy.bryan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg!! how do you know that he's not an online predator?? it doesnt matter how long you've been talking to him or how he makes you feel. its extremely dangerous!! you say he makes you feel sooo happy?? how do you know that he's not saying the exact same thing to other girls online?? he says anything to make you happy. wow.. meeting up with him could risk your life! are you ready for that?? but if you're meeting up with him no matter what, take someone else with you.. dont go alone.
2007-12-16 15:22:32 · answer #10 · answered by RIP Peter. i miss you. wait 4 me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋