My boyfriend and I having been dating for around 3 years now. Both of us see our relationship ending in marriage if all goes well. The only major concern I have is not in him, it is his family. First off my family loves my boyfriend. Everyone is very kind and inviting to him.Then comes the problem..his family is does not include me in hardly anything. They barely talk to me when I go to their house. I do not feel welcome. He has talked with them about it and feels bad. His mother is very protective and I think this is the cause. She is always fighting with him to come home and not stay at college (it is his first year). She is completely against premarital relations and is worried about us. I think it is none of her business. The way she treats me really hurts. I'd like to be accepted. What should I do..continue being friendly and try to make a good relationship with them even though it doesnt seem to work? Should I try to give a little distance and accept that we wont be close.
2007-12-16 14:17:49 · 3 answers · asked by sjtwae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
also I wasnt included in the family newsletter and their fourteen year old daughter's "ex-boyfriend" was. I am offended. I am wondering if it is appropriate write something about this in their christmas card...(I am giving a gift card). Is it okay to write that I'd like our relationship to be better in a christmas card. I dont know how to make this better! Help!
2007-12-16 14:19:43 · update #1
I didnt mean my absence in the letter. Rather something like..
" I am so glad to be in your sons life and would love to get to know you both better too." It would be rude to say something like that..Sorry my wording was bad.
2007-12-16 14:33:15 · update #2
Well, my boyfriends parents weren't very excepting of our relationship either. His mom even left a message of his answering machine about how bad I would be for him. This may not be the case with you, but I was finally accepted about five years into the relationship. Sometimes it just takes time. A lot of time. :) But if you love him, and you show love to the family, things will probably work out. Showing love to the family means, no, I would not mention your absence in the letter in your Christmas card. Just try to be gracious, and laugh about it with your boyfriend. It worked for me, anyway.
2007-12-16 14:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by fletchgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't write anything like that in a christmas card.
Your BF's parents either don't take you seriously or consider you competition for their baby-boy.
Your BF apparently hasn't cut the umbilical cord and lacks the guts to draw some boundaries or stick up for himself.
At 3 years, you should know for sure whether he is marriage material for you... so approach him about that. Have him do the thing or move on. If he does marry you, you can bet that his mother will be right there in your business day and night.
2007-12-16 22:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Encourahe your b/f to move far away with you.
2007-12-16 22:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋