I've posted other questions about this mixed signal guy who is afraid to commit and have a real relationship with me. We've been dating 4 months but we see eachother a lot, have tons of fun, and electric chemistry. Long story short I want to connect more but he has serious emotional walls up. I know I can't change him and it hurts to constantly hold back around him. So, I am moving on. I want to brake it off next time we talk I can't go on this way even though I care about him. His Christmas present is coming in the mail soon. I want to leave it at his door, I really want him to have it still, but I'd leave it with a letter explaining why it's come to this (I am much better writing my thoughts on paper with no interruptions) The letter is very kind and just explains my needs vs. his needs and if he is ready someday I'd like to give us a shot but right now I have to go...basically. Is this a good/bad idea? How would you feel?
2007-12-16 14:15:20 · 11 answers · asked by Shera 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if you believe that it's best that the two of you to break up, then go right ahead. It's better off if you go and and venture, instead of sticking around and waiting. There might be another guy out there that is not better, but ready to be with you and have a serious connection with you. In my opinion, it's better if you give him the present instead of just leaving it on his doorstep. You could still leave the letter, and if he wants to explain, then let him. There's nothing better than comunication. Just think of it this way, would you like it if he left you the present at your door with a letter and you not asking for an explanation? Well, in the end it's your decision, think it through, but don't let your emotions get in the way. Make a wise choice.
2007-12-16 14:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always been for being upfront with someone, and saying important things face to face. If someone said they cared about me and broke up with me in a letter left at a door, then I wouldn't think he cared at all. If your thoughts come out better on paper, then hand it to him in person. Be there when he reads it, so that if he has any questions or lack of understanding then you will be there to answer them. Leaving it in a letter is a cop out, and would tell him that you would rather make it easier for YOU rather than "man up" and tell him face to face. Let me put it this way, how would YOU rather someone break up with YOU?
2007-12-16 22:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about sending mixed signals!
I wouldn't send him a Christmas present if your intention is to break it off. I think clean breaks need to be made if youre truly intent on breaking it off.
I also think that you owe it to him to explain it to him in person. That being said, I'll confess that I've broken up by email before, beacuse I didn't have the kahunas to break it off in person.
Good luck. I hope you don't make the same mistakes I've made in that department.
2007-12-16 22:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had something similar happen to me with my ex. You could leave a letter, but you really should talk to him too. And do it after Christmas.
2007-12-16 22:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by .~*Twifi*~. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him a break up gift! That is just too mean. Send the thing back. Also, don't wait till after Christmas to break up...I did that once and what a mistake!
2007-12-16 22:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by Farty McFly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah plz do it in person and after christmas. just explain to him what you would write in the letter. and if that is too much, then you can use a letter
2007-12-16 22:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by Branshaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is an ok plan, but do it after Christmas. The last thing u will want is im being depressed over christmas.
2007-12-16 22:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You owe it to him to do it in person. Dear Johns are the biggest insult that can go along with the break up, it's like saying "I don't respect you enough to hear your opinion on the matter."
2007-12-16 22:19:39 · answer #8 · answered by Seattle_Slacker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its a good idea, its best in a letter so you can explain it properly to him, and have it say exactly what you want it to. but if he tries to get in touch afterwards, let him, it may completely change his mind about not wanting anything serious once he realises he is losing you. good luck hun
2007-12-16 22:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are ready to breakup with him do it if he acts stupid do it if he is nice and this is his first relationship be patient lol
2007-12-16 22:19:44 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ aLeXiS bEeZyS ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋