Why is that I am able to orgasm when I masturbate but not when my boyfriend is pleasuring me? He ends up getting so mad at me. I think it may because I get nervous with pressure or insecure or maybe he is doing something wrong. How can I fix this?
2007-12-16 14:13:08 · 7 answers · asked by beth 54321 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're probably not totally into it like you are when you're masturbating. You probably just need to do a few things to set the mood. Light some candles and get some nice music playing.
You don't mention how he tries to pleasure you when he's trying to get you off. If it's through intercourse, maybe he should go down on you first to get you started. If he's trying to do it just through oral, maybe he needs to improve his skills a little bit.
You can try helping him by telling what feels good and what doesn't. Communication is key with a subject like this. He's getting frustrated because he feels inadequate. Do things to let him know he's doing something right... moan, run your nails on his scalp, etc.
Good luck,
Brandon
2007-12-16 14:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend need to have a talk. It certainly doesn't help you that he gets mad at you for not having one. The way you can work on it is this. Don't make the goal of sex being to have an orgasm. If you're already having problems, it only adds to the pressure. Let the goal be to let yourself feel as much pleasure as you can. Let it be to connect on a different level. Let it be to relax and enjoy the moment. But don't go after the big O. It'll take some practice for you to finally let go. But when you are finally able, it'll all be worth it.
2007-12-16 22:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women are capable of acheiving orgasms through intercourse alone, but are have them by masturbation. I have the same situation. Some of us just need contact with our clitoris to be able to orgasm, and intercourse rarely achieves that. Your boyfriend shouldnt be angry at you for such a thing. Next time you two are having sex take his hand and place it on your clitiros and let him massage you while having sex.
2007-12-16 22:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by Dark Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you're "doing it" take deep breaths when he's pleasing you. it makes bloos rush faster and just get in the mood.
2007-12-16 22:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you think that he may be doing wrong and why do you get under perisher
2007-12-16 22:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
huh? why are you get nervous being with your boyfriend?
2007-12-16 22:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try and relax,be pataint, it'l happen
2007-12-16 22:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by flipper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋