Do any humans actually look at the inside of people, or is it only the outside?

Question

I hear all the time that Allah looks at your heart, not your body.

Then I started thinking about how I never hear anyone say "wow, he/she is a good person" it's always "wow, he/she is hot".

Looks like a lot of the time the people that put the outside as #1 end up not being happy, but the people that put the inside as #1 are usually the ones that end up happier.

Please read the entire question, not just the title......................................

Iamsilv,

I have never cared about looks in the slightest bit, because I have NEVER seen a person in my life happy that went only for outside (they break up every week, and find someone else next week, repeat that process 500 times? Real fun....), read the entire question.... I never said I had friends that are like that, nor did I say anything about myself.......

Answer 1

Salaam my brother,

this question is very interesting. I guess most people I know, myself included I'm ashamed to say, put looks first. But I have recently come to realize that looks are not everything, it is personality that counts. I mean it's no good to have a handsome guy that is a jerk, it's better to have an average looking guy that has a good heart.
For me it is too late, I can only pray to Allah that I have made the right choice InshaAllah.....

Answer 2

An excellent question. For me the answer is a definite YES. My husband and I met a little over a year ago on the internet and started out as him wanting an American to practice his English on. We talked for hours at a time and realized we had a lot in commen and both had the same ideas about most issues. I am 15 years older than him and not at all the type of women he was usually attracted to. He is Muslim and I am Christian. He is from Morocco and I am from America. Our love developed through our initial friendship and we were married 2 months ago. It happened at a time I had sworn I would never fall in love again and he was convinced he would never find the kind of woman he was looking for. I guess God knew what was best for both of us as we both truly believe we were led to each other by God and it was His plan that we be together. We both know we are each other's soul mate and true love.

Answer 3

Hey Tyler, You make a very good point. I see people try and try to be happy by buying things and "looking good." It is sad because true happiness cannot be made or bought. I just pray for those people, because true happiness can only come from the love given from above.

You sound very wise. You will have a much happier life than many people I've witnessed in my life.

Oh, my husband and I are both teachers...we are much happier making 1/4 of the money we did in the "professional world" as an accountant and investor.

Answer 4

You're right, people who look at the inside are happier than people who look at the outside. If the core values are good, then one can grow to love how someone looks, no matter how ordinary, but if the core values are nonexistant, or are rotten, then even a beautiful exterior can become repulsive.
I think the reason why you aren't seeing enough people believing/practicing this might be because you're looking at the wrong group: I mean those who publicly refer to others as being "hot" and people who keep "dumping" (as in dating) are probably not the select group of people who are particularly religious/pure.

Answer 5

Look inside a person. You can't read a book by it's cover. It could be the ugliest guy or girl you have ever seen when you first meet them, but after you get to know them they change looks, or seem to. They are not as ugly as you once thought they were.
One the other hand, I have met people I thought was really good looking till I started talking to them. It is really neat how your heart can see what your eye's miss.

Answer 6

I got an email earlier in myspace .. all he said was..."your hot"..I wrote back and said.."Is that all you see"? "what's in the picture"?.. I said that he was looking at my picture seeing what he WANTED me to be.. saying I was hot was a compliment and an insult at the same time.. He didn't read my profile to even try to find out who I was inside.. I personally don't consider myself at "hot" and wish that people would take the time to know others instead of just perceiving their personality by the picture.. Hot was an outside physical attraction.. I consider the inside to be the true attraction..

Answer 7

That's about it! God only exists in the minds of human beings. There is no evidence for the existence of any God outside the human mind.

Answer 8

Of course humans look at the other human at outside. That's the only things they can see, FIRST. But after more interaction only then, they can see from the 'inside'. But if that human posses the 'Inner Heart', then he can see from the inside FIRST. He couldn't be bothered with outside, it's window dressing. To possess the INNER HEART we have to undergo a certain training. It's spiritial. Have you heard about the THIRD EYES of the Tibetan Monk? Or SUFIs?

Answer 9

thats a really good question... the only answer i can give is that both really help. If your a really hot chick thats stuck up then sure in thelong run your probobly not going to be happy..... (same for girls likeing guys.) But if its a really nice girl and you think shes pretty then it really hightens your passion for the person. But i will say, im in highschool and if you dont have the looks then most boys wont even give you a second look. but if you become friends then that gives whoever your with a reall chance to get to know you better.

Answer 10

Most people look at the outside first and then the inside