Never understood this. To me, it seems they are trying to make a point. A point that they are dating someone and you're not. A point that they have someone and you don't.
But when I date people I don't hold hands. Why would you anyway? Your hands, together, start to perspire. It's like you have them handcuffed to you. It's uncomfortable to do it, especially if you both have different speeds. Plus it's unfair to walkers. Just a terrible experience.
Anyway, why must people show their affection in front of me? Especially when they kiss. The other night I was out with a friend of mine and we had to see this couple, right in front of us, start to devow each other.
2007-12-16 13:48:18 · 43 answers · asked by Austrian Theorist 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course I'm jealous people! Yeesh! I'm lonely and unhappy, but I'm cool with it. "I get the August Strindberg award when it comes to relationships."
2007-12-16 13:55:13 · update #1
Who says I'm not romantic? Because I don't like to hold hands? I could be romantic in private. Like listening to jazz all night and eating bagels.
2007-12-16 14:00:17 · update #2
Hey noneedto, I feel sorry for me as well! I guess you're not the only one.
2007-12-16 14:51:08 · update #3
Woody, you are just not meant for dating. The rest of the world loves to hold hands, kiss and to be handcuffed to their significant other.
On the other hand, I suppose that somebody has to not like all the romantic stuff. Looks like that's you.
btw... when are you going out again? I want to be sure I kiss my girlfriend (and hold her hand) right in front of you. I want to make sure I'm irritating you like all the other lovers in the world are doing to you. (If you weren't there, I'm sure we would all just sit there keeping our hands to ourselves.)
Oh... almost forgot... are you from Mars?
2007-12-16 13:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by Flame 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that sometimes people get a little carried away with their lover in public, yes there is a time and a place for everything. I think it's a good thing to show some affection in public, but it's not okay for people to start acting like they'll start "doing it" at any minute! I believe that people should keep in mind that there are other people around, especially children! I know I wouldn't want my children to see a couple tearing eachother's clothes off! That's just inappropriate! Lol
2007-12-16 13:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are being too harsh on you. I know exactly where you're coming from.
It's not the concept of being better or jealous in the first place. When you're out in public you owe a certain respect to the people around you. It's great that people are in love or dating and what not. But, you just can't go making out in a freaking line at the grocery store or something. I'm okay with most everything of the cuddling and hugging and hands area. The kissing stuff is just not too hot in public.
I'm not jealous or anything. It's just we gotta respect everyone so they respect us. Don't you think?
Happy holidays!
2007-12-17 05:24:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong with holding hands and occasionally kissing? You sound like you have never had someone you could call your bf or gf. Thats sad. I cant understand if the couple were making out or kissing on a side walk in the middle of traffic out where everyone could see,etc. But holding hands and showing minor affection in public is fine.
2007-12-16 13:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spontaneous affection.
I must admit I've seen some staged public affection that scream "DON'T WE LOOK LIKE A MOVIE?"
But I have also seen some fairly heartwarming stuff.
I remember I was on the bus and this older Asian couple got on.
The man had a real crusty attitude.He had a problem getting the money into the coin box and acted as if it was the driver's fault.
His wife was behind him and she was his opposite.Kind voice, very courteous, humble.
She went and sat down by her husband. he looked straight ahead not looking at her but with his left hand he fumbled around feeling for his wife's hand.
And she gently grabbed his hand. And there they sat.
It was a very sweet moment.
2007-12-16 14:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by Robert J W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you're just a tad bit upset that you don't have someone to show that affection with. Believe it or not when people are out and they kiss that special person they're not thinking "kiss me now i wanna make this person and that person jealous", they don't think about it. And most people who hold hands don't sweat unless you have the death grip on the others hand. Calm down, they have the right to do it, just like i guess you had the right to complain.
2007-12-16 13:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by Forever Your's 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only like holding hands in public, not kissing though. My bf likes showing his affection in public because he's naturally a sweet guy and I think he just wants to let everyone know that he loves me. But, we don't always hold hands whenever we go out. We hold hands when we feel like it. We aren't obsessed about showing affection. I never purposely rub it into other's faces who are lonely and single.
People who make out heavily in the public are gross and have no respect for others because it's disturbing. I understand how couples may want to show they have incredible love for each other, but they need to respect others too.
2007-12-16 13:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by =P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Showing signs of affection for another person is natural. However, being gross about it is not - it's called get a room. When you find someone that you really care for, you will want to give them a kiss hello and good-bye, or maybe just a pat on the head, but you will want to have physical contact of some kind. Just give people a break and ignore them.
2007-12-16 13:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Part of this sounds like jealousy and possible unhappiness in your own relationships. If you don't like holding hands with someone, then don't. In any case, no one is forcing you to watch other couples interact. Look away. If that's not possible (i.e., you're at a restaurant and the table right in front of you is taken by a couple like the one above), ask your server to take care of it.
2007-12-16 13:52:30 · answer #9 · answered by blue_angel29 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should be vocal about your discomfort next time. Just because they are devouring each others' faces in public doesn't mean that they are "in love." In lust, maybe.....but I know what you mean in that regard. As far as hand holding and other less scandalous displays of affection, I see nothing wrong with it. Maybe you need to evaluate your revulsions regarding intimacy.
2007-12-16 13:53:17 · answer #10 · answered by Sister Lourdes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋