i have 3 kids,their father and i broke up awhile ago and he has only seen them 1 time in the last 6 months, he lives in town but doesn't call them or make any attempt to contact them. When i've emailed asking for financial help or asking when he is going to see his kids next my emails go unanswered. We don't know where he lives or a phone number for him. what should i do with the holidays so close?
2007-12-16 13:44:57 · 8 answers · asked by ????? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i am sure he will try to see them on christmas but be gone again after that. he is truly a holiday father.
2007-12-16 14:23:24 · update #1
You need a GOOD lawyer. Plain and simple. Without the courts, there isn't anything you can do. Legally, he is responsible for the children. But unless you persue legal help, there isn't anything to "force" him to be responsible. Gather all the info you have, name, DOB, last address and SSN if you can and get to a lawyer.. fast.
2007-12-16 13:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by Lauryn N 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Contact the police and have them forward you to the proper authorities to collect from Mr. Dead Beat. He sounds by your description to be a real piece of work. Seek help from family services also. Take each day as it comes and be strong for you and the kids. I am sure if they are old enough they know what the deal is. He is doing this to hurt you. He is no nice guy or father. Good fathers don't do bad things to their kids.
Be Blessed !
The Woodster
2007-12-16 13:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by woodster 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to file for child support and make a visitation schedule. You don't want him popping in and out when he feels like it. He either needs to be in their lives or not. But he needs to hold up to his financial responsibilities and be giving you constant child support. You can get a public lawyer if you can't afford your own to help with the paper work.
2007-12-16 15:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is what you can with what you have. Your kids should understand the hard place you are in, so i wouldn't worry too much about that. about the guy...honestly i dont think he sounds too nice and you would do better without him. he apparently doesnt care too much so i would worry about him as less as possible. as for the money just do what you can your kids will understand. explain your situation. if they dont understand now they will later. just put your faith in God,pray,and dont worry too much. God has reasons for everything he throws at you. you will come out on top eventually. this is probably going to make you stonger.dont lose faith and dont give up. use your kids, friends,family and God to get you through.
2007-12-16 14:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have child support papers all ready for him. Then I 'd contact him and tell him I have a special gift for him and I'm sure he's just gonna love this one. Then I'd ask him how soon on Christmas Day can he be here?
2007-12-16 14:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please make sure that your kids know that it isnt their fault that their dad doesnt come around. it doesnt sound like he plans on coming around any time soon unless he has a job where he is away alot. apply for child support. just try the best you can to make the holidays good for your kids, if you have family that is going to be there, that will help. and make sure that they know that you are always going to be there. its hard, i know. my ex was never there for our kids, so i made sure that i was and am there for them.
2007-12-16 14:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by markieshoney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he lives in town maybe you could contact his work to see how to reach him. If he doesn't want to be involved in yours or the kids' lives that's his loss. All you can really do is do the best you can and pray it all works out. I know I'll be praying for you.
2007-12-16 13:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a lawyer to file for child support.
You do need to give the family court as much information as you can so they can find him and garnish his wages.
2007-12-16 14:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋