How can I politely tell people NOT to kiss my baby?

Question

I do not want strangers kissing my baby. Usually it is older ladies that want to walk up and kiss her. I do not anyone's lips on my baby.The only ones that is allowed to kiss my baby is her grandparents, her brother, her aunties and uncles, and me and my husband. How can I kindly let people know that they should not kiss my baby?

Answer 1

I don't think there's a non offensive way to say it... You can say it in a polite tone, but if they think that it's ok to kiss your baby in the first place, then they are probably going to be offended when you tell them to STEP OFF. Doesn't matter how you say it, just say it! You can't please everyone all of the time.

Answer 2

The society is not ready for what you want. There are 3 options so far I think:

1. Have your baby at home all the time, thus make her/him not having a possibility meeting a stranger

2. Whenever you take your baby out and there's a stranger walk up and try to kiss her, tell her that you don't allow her to do that. You might get a weird and funny looking face from her. But after all it's OK, your baby is yours, not anyone else's.

3. Same situation with number 2, but you lie to her by saying your baby has a cold / flu so nobody hopefully won't kiss your baby.

Answer 3

First I just want to know what kind of strangers would kiss another persons baby??? That is just stupid I reckon its ether you’re related to the child or you don’t kiss him/her am I right?

Anyways to your question 1st of all you shouldn’t lie the bad thing about lies is that ok you could say the baby’s sick but what if the persons a doctor? then you cant say anything can you nope so I reckon you should just tell them the truth say "sorry but I don’t like people others kissing my baby I’m sorry" now I know that’s rude to say but what’s more worse a stranger who could be sick passing the sickness onto you baby and then the baby will need medical attention (touch wood) or looking after your baby? I positive the second ones more essential

Hope this helped (:

Answer 4

Since it seems that society is generally hell bent on pawing the crap out of babies, I doubt that there's a polite (or rather what the majority would perceive as polite) way to tell people to back off.

The best I can come up with is to make some excuse that can be blamed on the pediatrician. But I think someone else already mentioned that option. Anyway, people are more likely to accept what medical professionals say.

Answer 5

You don't need to cover it up in any way such as saying the child is sick, etc...just say "Im sorry, I would prefer if you didn't kiss my baby" after all, it is your baby and they can't do anything about it. Also if you let the stranger hold your baby that is an invitation for them be affectionate with the baby. Remember, you're the mommy-what you say goes.

Answer 6

Be up front and just say, I'd prefer you not kiss my baby. If they seem offended.. then simply explain that it's cold and flu season and you don't want to risk your babies health. Most people will understand.

I know with my daughter.. that there were some elderly ladies who also wanted to kiss her, but most were polite and asked my persmission where as I could explain why I'd rather them not. But the ones who didn't ask.. they usually were very considerate in kissing her feet.. mostly they stayed away from her hands and face.

And honestly her feet, I could live with. She wasnt' putting them in her mouth at the time.

But you really need to just be upfront with these ladies. Remember your her mother, and your job is to protect her.. which means also protect her from colds, flus, and weird people.

If you state your feelings with respect.. most people will respect your feelings back.

Answer 7

A friend of mine who is a midwife visited her daughter who had just had a child and was informed she should wash her hands before picking up the baby
My reply would have been the baby has to be exposed to bacteria if it is to have an effecient immune system , I would have then said dont visit me or bring the baby you dont want cross infection and I dont want any of the childhood ilnesses brought to my door
I guess as with most things I do feel raqther strongly about uppity women , who think the world now not only revolves around thier Vaginas but now around thier Blessed special; children . If you need to make such a fuss DONT HAVE THEM !!!!!!!

Answer 8

I suggest you don't encourage strangers by not looking at them when they show an interest in your baby. Don't smile at them and don't talk to them.

I have never felt any inclination to kiss other peoples' babies. I don't even like it when their parents ask their toddlers to kiss me.

This is a very good question. I take this opportunity to tell everyone NOT to kiss other peoples' babies/children.

Answer 9

I wouldnt let them get close enough to kiss the babe to begin with. If they ask to hold her, just say she is fussy, just getting over a cold, also, trying saying that your babe has a skin allergy to cosmetics/perfumes/lip balm etc etc. You may have to physically block the sweet old ladies with a blanket or your arm. I know how you feel, I used to hate it when people ( even extended family) kissed my babies. One aunt would leave big greasy lipstick marks on their cheeks. Ick.

Answer 10

Wow...that's a tough one. You're right that they are over-stepping boundaries by actually KISSING your baby! I've seen people ask to hold other's babies but to kiss her?

You could just say that she tends to get sick easily and quickly remove her from the area of the possible kisser. Say the doctor told you to have as few people handle her as possible.

Answer 11

If you are holding the baby, you have control of how close people get. When you see someone approach, I would either hold the baby or stand between the baby and the stanger.

If someone asks, say "the baby gets upset with people she doesn't know"

Who does that anyway? Kiss babies they don't know.