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do you have to perform on demand just because you're married? It was a big ladys conversation today at the comunity center, couldn't believe what I've heard.!!!!

2007-12-16 13:35:49 · 27 answers · asked by nomorecapri 5 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

27 answers

When you find out, I'd like to know.
It must be the "testosterone" they should put it in bombs, it would be cheaper to pay for this war. :))
That and... it's not like he's your baby and needs to be breastfed on demand. Just remember the 72 hour rule... and make it good rather than routine. The males need to have sex every 72 hours so they don't look for it elsewhere. You, however, don't have to keep that unless you're not that much into sex. It's being sensitive to his needs.
Medically speaking, once activated, sex it's more like the urge to pee. Sorry - for the bluntness. But to be able to identify better with your husband, imagine you couldn't pee for a few days. That would suck.
Also, to assure a good function of the prostate glans, and avoid impotence, regular, and quality sex life is the best preventive medicine.
In the research about the prostate cancer, and impotence, a lot has popped up as correlation btw. poor sex life and one of those conditions.
So make your man healthy, would you?
But make him aware of your needs, and work as a team rather than two separate antagonizing neighbors.

2007-12-16 13:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 3 0

Not at all. I'm married and I'm 20. If I don't feel like "performing" I simply say NO. If this is how you really feel, then you and your man need to have a sit down talk about when, where and why you have sex. You are not lower than him and should never have to do a thing for him. Sex is only good when the two of you are passionate and have a want for each other. If your not wanting to have sex, then it's no good for you. He should want to please you, by doing the dishes and cooking a meal for you too. If he does this he will get more than he bargained for in return (yes?). Sure, women want to please their man. But I believe a real woman, with class, will also get what she wants. Go get it honey.

2007-12-16 13:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Absolutely not. I have many male patients that think because they are married, and demand sex from their wife, that she must comply.

When I tell them that married or not married, if the answer is "no", and you force her, this is RAPE, and if your wife or girlfriend, wants she can charge you with rape.

Having a legal document of marriage does not give you the right to force sex upon your wife, when she is not in the mood.

Minddoctor, France

2007-12-16 15:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by MINDDOCTOR 7 · 1 0

I think sex is soooo important I am married and it is even more important now....Like-sometimes I don't see my husband all day we both work, and when I get home its all about the little ones...and he is still working and relaxing.....so we are really only alone at night-too tired to chit chat so sex is a way we communicate and feel close to one another. We also have sex atleast twice a week in the shower in the morning...So when he wants it unless I am on my monthly he gets it and vice versa.

2007-12-16 13:40:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

I think because of the obligation to please ones husband some people will. Personally I would like to be in the mood, however that could make you get in the mood. You have to try to keep the relationship fresh, if you're married a big part is that you have to be pleasing to one another.

2007-12-16 13:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

lol - well....sex is an important part of marriage :) Right up there with friendship and trust.

If your man is the one who wants sex more, consider yourself fortunant. Let me tell you how hard it is when it's the other way around....

Communicate what you both need and want. Be ok with him occasionally masturbating. Invest in a favorite lubrication. Become a "oral connesouir" ;)

Best wishes!

2007-12-16 13:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by I love soup... 2 · 1 0

No..your wife/husband should understand that it takes a lot of energy to have sex and that you may not always be physically capaple of performing.

2007-12-16 13:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by Becca K 1 · 1 0

Sex is the best, but you shouldn't have to perform on demand for anyone.

2007-12-16 13:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2 1

Yea, basically and so should they. It's not like it takes half the day. Just do it even even when you don't feel like it and in no time at all you will be in the mood too. It should go both ways.

2007-12-16 13:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 2 0

No. Just b/c your married doesnt mean you are a tool to just pick up and use whenever the person feels like it.

2007-12-16 13:38:31 · answer #10 · answered by R.D. 3 · 2 0

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