Im 29 and my fiance is 35. 98% of the time we have sex is when he wants it. Almost every time i want it he gives me these excuses: Im tired, Im old and cant do it as much as you want it, or Im not in the mood. Do you think hes being truthful or what? Also, when im on my period sex is out of the question for him! Are all guys like this? I mean thats why we have showers! Please be respectful with your answers!
2007-12-16 13:33:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ive tried asking him why he wont have sex with me most of the time when i want it and he gives me the excuses again and gets mad and we end up in an arguement.
2007-12-16 13:47:33 · update #1
Also, hes told me if i quit giving it up to him he would find sex elsewhere. But not if i just refused him once or twice. What should i do?!
2007-12-16 13:52:06 · update #2
He also says he would NEVER cheat on me!
2007-12-16 14:02:38 · update #3
And he tells me alot that im such a good woman and a good one for him. And he wishes he knew how to show me this more often.
2007-12-16 14:05:05 · update #4
Can't say for sure if he's being truthful. Different people have different 'appetites'. As for me, I wish my s/o would initiate more often. I have always wanted it more frequently than she.
As for your question about sex during your period -- again, for her this was out of the question. It didn't bother me any, and frequently had sex with previous girlfriends during their period -- no big deal. Again, this depends on personal preferences.
But I'm somewhat troubled by your addition: It's OK for him to turn you down, but if you do, he's openly said he'll find it elsewhere? I would not be in any hurry to proceed with marriage if this is the level of integrity your future husband has.
In closing, one word of caution: If you have any doubts about how this will impact your future marriage, you need to think very seriously about if you could be happily married given this difference in sexual desire. While I don't believe sex should be the focus of a marriage, I also don't believe a marriage can be successful if one of the couple is not happy. From a personal standpoint, if I could go back in time knowing what I know now, I'm not sure I would still be with my wife. While we have two great kids and are otherwise successful, there is no desire in our relationship. While I've been turned down far more than I would have liked, I have never been unfaithful. Not something I find morally acceptable.
I wish you nothing but the best!
2007-12-16 13:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by David M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When men get older they want it less. Women seem to want it more when they get older. It's strange how it happens that way.
It's funny because 98% of the time I've wanted sex I never got it.
2007-12-16 21:37:17 · answer #2 · answered by Hilow H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well. first of all. sex isn't all that a relationship has to think about. trust me. i'm going through a hard time trying to get with this girl. you have to understand that you only have one life to live and you shouldn't waste it by being skankish with your husband. think about being respectful and at least making out every now and then. just remember that you love each other. good luck with your relationship.
2007-12-16 21:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he is trying to control the sex portion of your relationship.He may feel like it is his role to always initiate sex being male. Is he the type that shuts down when you at your strongest?
2007-12-16 21:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by M.D. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, when girls are on thier period , guys need to stay away health reasons, but when he throws these excuses at you , throw them right back at him when he wants it , then he'll know how you feel, you'll know his reaction, then you will know how to deal with it.
2007-12-16 21:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by newingtonnewington 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first please let him know, talk to him ask him why is it only when you want? you all need to have that communication. now as for truthful, i might think he might not be, but that's my option. but ask him that question why is it only, when he wants, don't be afraid. Communicate
2007-12-16 21:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by MARKY MARXX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never try to force period sex..I've had and am not proud of it.
2007-12-16 21:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do it sometime but I wouldn't say that.
2007-12-16 21:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by Moss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uhm....just be like, "wow, it's hott out"
Or
"Do you know of a good doctor?" and wink
2007-12-16 21:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO!!!
2007-12-16 21:36:22 · answer #10 · answered by Steve b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋