For example: Having your mom make you feel guilty for your decission and because of such decission she will not come to your wedding. Nor will any of your family, because your mom feels you need to appologize for your actions.
2007-12-16 13:14:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You were way over due to leave home to begin with so your family should be very happy for you. To top it off, you are getting married!!
You are doing the right thing and if they can't see that it is their loss. You must keep moving forward regardless of how they feel.
2007-12-16 13:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by Julie C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that your mother, and forgive me if I'm wrong, is a control freak. She doesn't realize that it's way past time to cut the apron strings.
Move out and do not feel the least bit guilty about it. You need your own life and you sure aren't going to get it living at home with Mommy and Daddy.
If she and other members of your family refuse to come to your wedding because you decided you needed to act like an adult, then it will be their loss, not yours.
And do Not apologize. For what? For standing up for yourself and finally realizing that in order to move on with your life you have to leave home?
Freedom is a wonderful thing. Sometimes I come home and sit here in the dark with music on and light some candles. Sometimes I cook and sometimes I don't. I do what I want to when I want to. I answer to nobody. And as the song goes "I did it MY way."
Leave before it's too late and life has passed you by. Your mother will get over it--eventually!
2007-12-16 21:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by LadyBug 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are speaking of your own mother, she has CONTROL issues, and is probably living her life vicariously through yours.
You're not a criminal, are you? If not, no reason on earth to 'feel guilty" about moving away from home. If your mother doesn't come to your wedding, you can't change it.. she's emotionally 7 years old, i guess.
Please... just TELL your mom of your plans, invite her to the wedding. If she declines the wedding invitation, go ahead with your plans without her.
Her pouting and tantrums aren't going to change your happiness... because YOU are not going to allow it!!! don't let mom control your feelings... Just because she is miserable, doesn't mean you have to be miserable, too.
Hon if you are having issues with your mother and the way she acts, reacts and treats you, and if it's affecting your life, consider talking with a therapist... for your own sanity.
take care and i hope you have a wonderful wedding!!!
2007-12-16 21:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you keep the relationshiop a secret? If so, then I would apologize. Are you contributing to a household that is now going to be financially insecure because you are leaving abruptly? If so, then I would apologize. Is your mother worth a second of true humility in which you put her needs before yours and just apologize to keep the peace?....if so, apologize. 31 is pretty late to be leaving the home, so if you dont owe an apology...maybe just a good explaination.
2007-12-16 21:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by smcp1965 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you getting married stay until the wedding day then your gone anyway but don't get married just for the sake of getting out of the house.If you want out fake a promotion or get a transfer or apply for a transfer this would the easiest way and your family cant get all that POD at you there are times to cut the cord
2007-12-16 21:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by big nickel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need your parents' permission; you are definitely considered an adult at this age and can make your own decisions. The point of parenting is to prepare your children for leaving home and having their own lives...it seems like your mom wants you to be a little girl forever.
2007-12-16 21:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truely just packed up and left, without giving any kind of notice or warning, then shame on you. You wouldn't treat a roommate or friend that way, so why would you treat your family like that. Apologize, if that's all it takes, and get your family back.
2007-12-16 22:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Why, are you marrying a guy you've known for 2 days? then maybe they have reason to be concerned-- but you're an adult, so just do what you want; they can take it or leave it.
2007-12-16 21:24:41 · answer #8 · answered by shrinkydinkheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋