Question for LDS mothers of teenage boys? Or anyone... please?

Question

Well Im 17 and my boyfriend is going to be 19 he is LDS and so am I. He still lives at home. But his mom is always always calling it drives me nuts. He has to lie cuz were not suppose to spend 1 on 1 time together so he lies i hate it. But i mean if its what we have to do to see each other. But i mean were really in love but i never do anything right i live in a small town and everything i do gets right back to her.. She even got made because i held is hand to intimatly.. were not suppose to kiss hold hands or anything and she thinks he is going on a mission and he does not want to.. his mom and dad are freaking nuts... what can i do? I love him but i mean do i have to do this tell i graduate? I really love him so i should stickk it out.. but i mean.. i have been but how long must i stick it out before i completely just say forget it.. whitch i never want that to happen

Answer 1

R U LDS or not? If so, then you know the church is always putting on disquises aways (they act OK in public, but themselves behind closed doors), if not, then you better see the light, If you are not LDS, this is typical of an LDS person, they will hide things from others. They make the truth look real and christians make the truth look bad. You will have to decide if you like playing the masquarde or not. The LDS people are aloud to hold hands and kiss, so hes a mommas boy and he better learn to get out on his own and she let go of the apron strings or you are going to have problems, like that other couple that was on 20/20 (the parents and the daughter was mormon, she was going to marry her husband in the temple by her in UT, but the husband-to-be wanted to get married in another temple and the mother got mad and became possessive and both parents ran off with their daughter and tried to convince the daughter that the wedding was off and not to marry the husband even tho he was a mormon)
I went thru this with my parents, they didn't want me to get too close to my boyfriends and I had to sneak around, I ended up rebelling and I lost my faith with the church. So he may rebel or he may do has mama says and end up going on a missions trip, eother way, you are still living in a masquarade and its up to you whether you like mascarades or not.
Frankly, if she is not hapy with you now, and you get married, you will continue to have problems in the future, the chose is yours.

Answer 2

First, if he does not wnat to go on a mission, he will not, no matter what he parents say. Bishops and stake Presidents are to weed out those young men who want to go on a mission because they want to spread the gospel as opposed to those who go because of pressure from others, but don't particularly want to go.

If his mother is driving you nuts, then you might just have to break up with him, because it sounds to me it' like, "You want my son, you're gonna get ME!"