I just don't like it. I enjoy the forplay and everything. But when it comes to sex I hate it! I love my partner...and I know he is not the problem, because I never enjoyed it before! He tries to do everything he thinks I like but I am just not into the intercourse. I just want to fake it and get it over with? Any ideas of what I can do?
2007-12-16 12:55:37 · 11 answers · asked by Beatriz C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
see a sex counceler or somthing like that maybe
2007-12-16 12:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though there may be a deep-seated reason inside you for this.
You may be struggling with a self-esteem issue, where subconsciously you don't feel you deserve pleasure.
You may have had a religious or parental upbringing where sex was considered "dirty" and you're reacting to it.
Your relationship with him may be imperfect in the sense that he's not pleasing you in things during the day, and you can't let yourself go during the night.
You may be bringing too much anxiety to the bedroom. You may feel that you cannot open yourself to him emotionally and so you internally resist the physicality.
I'd suggest you talk it over with him and see how he reacts. Does he know how you feel? Faking it cheats both you and him, and you shoud stop that immediately. If you don't want intercourse, tell him and demand that he respect your feelings.
And, you might consider therapy. It's helped many people with the same issues. Good luck....
2007-12-16 13:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by jasper addleton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a big fan of it either...only once in awhile. There could be a few reasons why you don't like it. One being that he might not be good at it and you've never had with someone that knew what he is doing. Or you just might not be into it. There is nothing wrong with that. I think it's normal, especially for a woman.
2007-12-16 12:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha, u dont know how common that is among women. Unfortunately god has granted us with penis sizes of unsatisfactory levels towards women. Alot of women fake it just to get it over with to. There is this one thing where women OR men dont like intercourse and thats what u should see a doctor for.
2007-12-16 12:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jamesnt2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not alone! most women have sex just 4 their partner! most do fake it! i have been married almost 29 yrs and faked lots of times! but he didn't know this! it could be because we are so tired, got to much to do, he is to rough, or lots of things! but don't worry cause you are not alone!
2007-12-16 13:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by momma_m_47280 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're doing it for the wrong reasons or with the wrong person. Sex, should be enjoyed by the two ppl involved, if not then you need to speak up....maybe he's doing something wrong or not doing something to please you.
Good luck
2007-12-16 12:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by ☼ Latina Loca loves Yayo ☼ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are a lesbian? or maybe you should try watching other girls do it, like watching porn. I used to think it was totally disgusting too until I saw girls who really seemed to enjoy it, and then I realized it wasn't just something that guys like doing to girls, it is mutually enjoyable.
2007-12-16 13:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I've never had sex and I'm not really too interested in having it either it seems so dirty and gross honestly.
2007-12-16 12:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by sparrowszealot 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe its not 4 u or hes juss not doin it right ....uhave 2 tell him how u want it.....it probably dnt meey ur standards
2007-12-16 13:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by jazzmyn b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep talking to your partner --- experiment --- longer foreplay --- look at what you hate and why you hate it and see what you can do to change it
2007-12-16 12:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋