Im 15 and my friend's friend is having a party but my mom wont let me go. There is not going to be any drinking, drugs, or smoking and the parents are going to be there. She said if i go that she would have to drive me there and talk to the parents and i said i dont want to do that because i was going to carpool with my friend and if she talks to the parents, im gonna be the only one there with a parent and it would be imbarassing. gah i dont know what to do.
2007-12-16 12:51:43 · 33 answers · asked by Sandra P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well it seems you have to decide which is worse. Not going to the party at all, or going there with your Mum. Personally I'd go with Mum rather than miss out. But its your choice.
By the way, Mum's doing what she can to protect you, and you will understand better as you get older, and maybe have kids of your own.
By the way, don't sneak out, unless you want to loose all of her trust in you.
2007-12-16 12:58:53 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First be grateful your mother cares about you because she's not going to drive you to a party and talk to the kids parents for no reason at all. It sounds like you have a smart mother and I know it may be embarrassing but hey it could be alot worse. Just go to the party and like someone said before take your mother to the house the day before to meet the parents and let your mother know that your responsible and you understand why she wants to meet the parents. I bet she'll let you ride with your friend too. Don't burn your bridges either if you want to be treated like a big girl you have to play the part by acting responsible.
2007-12-16 13:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by missing_nyc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really want to go to the party you're going to have to follow your parents lead. Otherwise they wont let you go. Understand that they are only trying to protect u, even though u say there wont be drugs, smoking and all that bad stuff- your parents dont know that and just want to make sure.
Love your parents for taking such good care of you and dont be embarassed about that! There are kids out there who would give anything to have parents like that.
Have fun at the party!
2007-12-16 12:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by Micah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do they plan on staying for the whole party? Another option would be to give your parents the number of your friends parents and vis versa.....This way they can talk to them. Or ask your parents if they would be willing to talk to the other parents before the party.......You have to be willling to make a compromise with your parents, to show them you have nothing to hide. There is alot going on nowadays, and parents are starting to take extreme measures. Sit down and talk to your parents....with out rolling your eyes, popping your lips, whining, or talking with an attitude. If you show your parents you have some maturity about yourself, and that you are trying to be responsible about the situation, they may give you a little more freedom. Oh, if they are so persistant about driving you, ask them is it okay for you to ride with your friend after the party.........But whatever you do, do not get an attitude or whine! good luck
2007-12-16 13:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by biancabass83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it may seem embarassing to have your parents there, lets think about this though. You can either not go at all OR you can let your parents go talk to the other parents for a bit, and then they leave and you get to stay and enjoy the party. I say let your mom go with you to the party, keep earning the trust, and enjoy it once you are there.
2007-12-16 13:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to go badly enough, you should let your mom check it out. She's only looking out for you. And even if your friend's friend isn't planning on having drugs or alcohol around, some party guests might.
Also, its your friends friend...not your friend hosting it. I'm friends with this one girl, and one of her other friends who I don't know very well, is a druggie...I didn't know that after having met her briefly a few times...I learned it later.
If you want to avoid the embarrassment, have your mom go over an hour before the party starts.
Basically though, either agree with your moms terms, or don't go. Its as simple as that.
2007-12-16 12:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF you want to go so bad, just let your mom take you. Go a little early, hopefully she will be gone before the other kids arrive. She is just doing this because she loves and cares about you.
ALso, there will be many more parties. I know this is a big deal right now, but you will go to so many parties in college, you wont even be able to count.
Plenty of time left to party. Let your mom take you. NO big deal.
2007-12-16 12:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by pupgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just concerned for you. You're young and at that stage where peer pressure is a huge factor. She wants the best for you, to be healthy, safe, happy, etc. My parents did the same and I hated them until I myself left for college. Then I understood - I really didn't have the experience to make decisions on my own then and they simply wanted me safe. A parent, especially moms, have a hard time trusting anyone who they don't know with their kids. They don't know what that person will do or decide for you, therefore she wants to talk with them, let them know the boundaries, etc. I would say, give your mom the number to their parents, have her call them. It's embarassing as hell I know, I hated it, but your friends may have the same kind of parents. Atleast she is saying you can go *if* she can make sure you're safe. You are definitely lucky to have your mom. Many kids don't have that kind of love and protection so take advantage. As long as you go to the party, who cares if your mom spends a little time making sure you're safe. If people make fun of you, blow them off. Let them know your mom just loves you, and their mom should've done the same.
2007-12-16 12:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hunny think of this, you may be the only one with your parents getting involved, but that just means you are the only one whos parents actually care what really happens to you. I am not far off from my youth, but I can tell you, I could only WISH my parents would have been as involved as yours. I would have had a better childhood. You can still have fun and ease your parents minds simply by keeping them involved. The more you give in to their rules, the more you will get to do in the long run. They love you, no need to be imbarrassed about that.
2007-12-16 12:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by alena w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your Mom to go and meet the friend's parents before the day of the party. That way she will know what kind of people they are and her mind will be at ease. Call your Mom from the party if she decides to let you go and check in with her to show her that you are responsible.
2007-12-16 12:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by tinytracy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋