I made friends with this girl last Tuesday and I really liked her. I had a girlfriend that I had been seeing for 2 years and I dumped my girlfriend to be with her. She asked me if I liked her like 2 days after I met her and I said yes...but i wasn't ready to jump into a relationship at the moment.
Yesterday, she asked me to be her girlfriend. I was very taken back and tried to turn her down nicely but felt awful so I said yes. She drove 2 hours away to my house yesterday to see me we went to the mall i bought her ice cream etc. It was nice.
We kissed a few times but i felt very uncomfortable with it. We cuddled a bit too and I continued to feel very uncomfortable. I was also uncomfortable with her staying at my house. I actually tried to get another one of my friends to stay at my house too so it wouldn't just be her and I.
I kind-of "forced her" to leave this morning. I feel bad. I made up an excuse. She wouldn't leave!! Today..I told her how i felt...below is what I wrote.
2007-12-16 12:49:40 · 6 answers · asked by BadToTheBone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wasn't expecting you to ask me out the other day...and I was really shocked and didn't want to hurt you and turn you down because I figured if I turned you down you'd find someone else at home or at school but the truth was i REALLY would have rather waited until January to date you just because then I would know like that I was fully over Jen and that I could start things fresh. I wanted this break to think and not just jump into something really fast that was kinda why I told you I wanted to wait until January. So I could just have time to clear my mind and so nobody would get hurt.
I told her to give me until January to really think about things. (that's when i go back to school) She told me she really liked me and was crying. She said I broke her heart note: I've only known her since TUESDAY....
So, she agreed to give me time and such. But to be honest I don't know if I'm going to go back with my ex!!!
2007-12-16 12:50:17 · update #1
Then, on "facebook" i changed my relationship status to "single" and "look for..friendship, a relationship" and she flipped out and was like...see you are looking for a relationship see see see...and I was like CALM DOWN!!!!
she kept insisting I was looking for a relationship truthfully, I'm not!!
what do I do??!!!
I like this girl I don't want to hurt her
but I don't want to be tied down to anyone!!
2007-12-16 12:51:36 · update #2
For one thing, I can't believe you dumped your loyal girlfriend of 2 years. Surely there was something there to make you stay with her for so long! Why ruin all that for some girl you met less than a week ago? At least give it some time, so you can see whether your feelings for this new girl are just lust. So already someone got hurt.
Also, you need to be straight up with this girl. You are sending all the wrong signals, dumping your girlfriend for her, letting her come over to your house, kissing her...
The best thing you can do is flat out end it with her and learn from this mistake...although just a hint, girls won't like to hear the reason why your serious relationship went down the tubes.
2007-12-16 13:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dumped a gf you had for 2 years to be with this girl so she expected that you were serious about getting to know her. You shouldn't be too surprised about that.
It does sound as if she is getting too attached too quickly, and you are right you need time to sort things out and decide what you want to do. A 2 year relationship will take time to get over even if you were the one who ended it. The discomfort you felt with this new girl shows you are not ready to start again, so if you continued to lead her own it would have been more hurtful than ending things immediately. Tell her you are sorry but you made a mistake and are not ready to settle down and intend to look for new friends, and also hope to stay friends with her. Let it go at that, if she continues to pressue you, distance yourself. She will get the hint.
2007-12-16 21:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl, but there's something seriously wrong with this picture. The girl you met on Tuesday seems way too overly smothering, sensitive and not to mention needy and clingy. Ewww, that's SO ANNOYING!
You need time to yourself to figure things out, but don't feel guilty for doing what's best for you. If you have a good heart, then that's not being selfish. You're trying hard to be nice. That's good.
Some girls tend to exaggerate when it comes to how they feel. I'm not saying all. Cuz, duh, I'm a girl too. But, don't hold back on the truth because it hurts so much more to sustain a lie than to just cut it out when it's still healthy to do so.
Good luck and happy holidays!
2007-12-16 20:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by SFSF10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run.. Change your phone number and your facebook user name.. If you have only known her since Tuesday and she is flipping out like that... Imagine if you date her for a month and then talk to the cashier at the store for a minute while she is checking you out.. I am telling you this as a woman myself.. This is not normal and more than scary obsessive.. I can understand her feelings being hurt but not that much..
2007-12-16 20:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by Julie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to make her understand. other than thinking bout ur previous relationship u should also look at the future ahead of u. u should try being with her to comfort her
2007-12-16 21:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
remove looking for a relationship from your face book, to prove it to her.
2007-12-16 20:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋