How do I deal with fear?

Question

Fear about my own belief that I may fail, I may be unsuccessful ,I may not reaching the goal in life.

Answer 1

By setting the bar outrageously low.

Answer 2

You seem to be in a troubled state and if you keep presenting that to others and overly talking about your problems then you will chase people away. A priest, medication and or a psychiatrist will either make you dependant on them, rip you off or further complicate your problems. You have to look at yourself and solve it yourself, no one knows you better than YOU. Develop your self awareness, but you cannot do this if you are thinking about yourself and your problems. Awareness starts with some home truths and being honest with yourself or you will end up fooling yourself. Please don't take this personally but people will get fed up of you playing a victim. People want to be uplifted not de-energised by negative self centred complaining. Fear is a thought is it not, fear has not happened yet, it is in the future. As you are reading this right now you are not in a state of fear are you? So fear is in the future and only arises when you bring that future thought into the present and you become unavailable to the beautiful moment. If you fear something like a job interview then you must practice, acquire knowledge and talk about it to others then your confidence will eradicate fear. Experience - knowledge -self confidence - fear subsides. Your past memories will always make you unhappy and disappointed because if you think of a happy memory you will soon long for that to happen again and therefore bring you down and become disappointed. And if you think of a bad memory then that will also obviously bring you down. It is the same with future thoughts as our expectations never turn out exactly as we plan them, which obviously brings disappointment. Stay with the present moment and accept what is rather than trying to change what is into something that is not. Deal with your past memories and jump forward in to the present without baggage so that you are light enough to walk on water. The past is dead, the future is imaginary happiness can only be in the eternal NOW moment. Why destroy your present happiness by a distant thought of misery, which may never come at all. If I did not think about my self would there be any self pity? Can I love if I am thinking about myself? Be a caring, loving human being who is more interested in others and doing good in the world. Where there is love there is no problem. Where there is no love the problem becomes complex.

Answer 3

Get in touch with the fear. Bring it up and face it full on. Ask yourself what is the worst and best that can happen and then let it go. If you 'fail' it's only a stage in succeeding. You just pick yourself up, dust youself down and start all over again

Answer 4

Get your focus off yourself and get on it on the Lord. If you are walking in obedience to Him, then you are to trust Him to keep you, guide you and get you to where He wants you to be. You are so focused on the big I, that's enough to cause fear. Your fear comes from putting all your confidence in you instead of God. Here is one of the best verses I know for fear.

Isaiah 41:10; Fear not [ there is nothing to fear ], for I am with you; do not look around you in terror and be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen and harden you to difficulties, yes, I will help you; yes I will hold you up and retain you with My [ victorious ] right hand of rightness and justice.

Use your bible and concordance and find the verses dealing with fear or being afraid and meditate on the Word of God instead of your problem.
Remember fear is the enemy of trust in the Lord.

Answer 5

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power , of love and a sound mind. 2 timothy 2:9? it is in 2 timothy I know ...

You afraid you wont be sucessful ?
God Promises in Psalms 1 that you will be sucessful if you mediate on His Word.
Read Psalm 1 KJV .

Answer 6

I've dealt with the same.

Since the day my parents declared that I was no longer their daughter, I lost all hope for myself. That was one of the worst days of my life, and I still hear their words as I fall asleep at night.

Just keep trying. There's ALWAYS a chance, regardless of the unlikelihood.

I'd simply recommend to you, that you always try to be happy. If your goal isn't happiness, then sometimes your goal isn't as important as happiness is.

I've spent far too much of my life unhappy, to accept it for the future. I'm taking things one day at a time, and I swear to God, I will be happy someday, or I'll die trying.

Answer 7

You can never fail as long as you are trying. Either you fail by never even trying or you risk failure by giving it a try. Don't sabotage yourself. You are essentially forcing yourself to fail if you don't just give it a try.

If you end up not being as successful, all that really matters is that you tried.

Answer 8

When I'm in so much fear, I think of someone that will keep me safe and will be behind me for as long as I live. That person is my best friend and my mom

Answer 9

fear is a good feeling it make you sharp and creative...keeps you going but don't let fear stops you on doing things you want to do, f you stops doing what you want to do in life then you will never be successful.

Answer 10

To deal with this means taking it to God. And learning to trust in Him totaly. Read psalms 91