I've been having some issues with boyfriend and it's really trivial stuff. He says I don't care about making him happy because when we're on webcam he wants me to do sexual stuff, and I don't mind to a certain extent. I get bored with it and get tired of doing it and some stuff I just don't feel comfortable doing. Well for the past week or so, we've been getting into an argument every night and he says I don't care about him being happy and sarcastically he says we'll just focus on me and all I care about is my happiness and I'm not willing to bend for him, which isn't true. I told him I could make him happy in other ways besides that. I sent him a very long IM me today (he had signed off and went to work), I basically told him I can make him happy in ways as such as just being there for him, talking to him on the phone, talking in general, and other things that haven't came to my mind yet. How can I drill it into his head that he can be happy with me and not need sexual things daily?
2007-12-16 12:44:18 · 4 answers · asked by youresoscene_xxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry but this guy sounds like an asshole. He wants you to do sexual things for him over webcam and if you dont he critisises you! please please dump that sorry ****. and if you dont feel comfortible doing it then dont do it. He cant make you do anything. and if you wanna drill anything into his head it should be that he needs to get that ITS OVER!
2007-12-16 12:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by Mark 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me I just went through this and it depends on how sexual your relationship was before the distance. Mine was extremely sexual and why mine didnt work. We ached for each other so bad that when we were apart no webcam or talking would do. If you are younger as it sounds then the other problem arises is that there are lots of options to tempt you and plainly you are not there a lot when he needs you most. Very rarely do long distance relationships work and all I can say is proceed with caution. I do not want to say it will not work but it is tough.
2007-12-16 20:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by belbiv1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a long distance relationship too.. we started webcamming a bit w/sexual stuff... and then I also got uncomfortable doing it, particularly b/c it reminded me of this other manipulative guy who got me to do some pretty bad things on it... Anyway my boyfriend was totally understanding and he eventually stopped asking me to do it. (Even though I wasn't really demanding that we stop.)
That's not fair of him to make those sarcastic remarks... he sounds immature.
Tell him to go buy a playboy! You should ALWAYS be comfortable when you're doing things with your own body. If he continues to be so insensitive, I'd say let him go.. let him find some girl that he can screw so that he feels better.
2007-12-16 20:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by :Sheila: 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few different things going on here.
First, as to the "How can I drill it into his head" question. Quite possibly, you CAN'T, because it may not be true.
You aren't wrong for wanting different things sexually than he does (like less of it), but he isn't wrong either!! You each want what you want.
Now, since you want different things, you have to discuss that in, it is to be hoped, a calm and loving manner.
2007-12-16 21:27:59 · answer #4 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋