I'm in love with a Guy who is 15 yrs older than me... I am 27 and he is 42. We love each other so much.. We are in a relationship since years.. I feel that he is my soul mate... Sometimes, I get confused because of the age differnence. What is your opinion
2007-12-16 12:42:18 · 91 answers · asked by Steve b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go for it
2007-12-16 12:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by zoee_d 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It seems a little strange to me just because someone in their 40s has a lot more life experience than someone in their 20s normally. But you're certainly old enough to make that decision on your own. I just think about future kids you might have. If you have a kid in the next couple of years, he'll be 60 when the child graduates high school. It's something to think about. Also, if he has minor children from a previous marriage that could get complicated too. The stepmom thing can be no fun sometimes, no matter how much you love the guy. Good luck with this.
2007-12-16 12:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By 27, you should be comfortable with yourself and know what you want from life. Sure you will change over the years but the basis of your life long personality has pretty much already been set unlike a person in their teens and early 20's who can be fickle about everything. If you have found somebody who makes you happy consider yourself lucky and go for it. You are at the age where you pretty much know what you want in a spouse and if you've found that in a 42 year man, so be it.
2007-12-16 12:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend is 14 years older than his wife and they have a great relationship. It's more about compatability than age. Not every 42 year old would be cut out for a relationship with a 27 year old (and vice versa) but with many people it works out great. Since it sounds like y'all have already been together a long time and it's working well, there's no reason it shouldn't continue to go well. So just relax and enjoy it !
2007-12-16 12:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by Schleppy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't think it's a show stopper by any means. If you're in love, that's all that matters. Women generally tend to be more mature anyways, so you being younger than him isn't as big of a deal as the other way around. Plus, the older you two get, the less of a difference the age makes. I know someone who is 45 and her beau is 60. I've never seen her happier in her life!
2007-12-16 12:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Arianna R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Y bf is 13 years older than I am, I am very happy, no big difference =)
he is so young in thoughts, so athletic, so full of life... he is 35 and I am 23... love him =)
will get married maybe. I am not sure yet cz it's a HUGE step! but never his age did make any difference at ALL; I have friends my age who look older than him and their thoughts are so old fashioned and old, he has the experience of a 35 year old and the spirit of a teen =) why should I leave him? for numbers? u go girl, stick with the one that makes u happy!!!
2007-12-18 23:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is 17 years older than me, and he's the love of my life.
Our personalities are very similar. The only problems are that we don't share the same interests and the fact that I am so much younger than him makes me feel REALLY awkward when I am with his friends. I might be embarrassed if he ever hung out with me and my friends (he never has), so that part of the relationship is really the only downside.
Stay with him if you are happy, but also spend time with friends your own age, or you'll eventually feel isolated and kind of lonely, missing the fun things that 27 year olds enjoy.
2007-12-16 12:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by CuriousJane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex is 20 and I am 32. Not the easiest thing in the world but she was much more mature than most of them women at my age. Our problems was she was still in school and I already had a career and that was a huge problem in our lives. If you are past those type of hurdles then who cares about age. I never put a value on age just on my feelings for that person. If it is what makes you happy then love it and embrace it!!!!
2007-12-16 12:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by belbiv1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
15 years is no big deal cuz you're 27. You're old enough to know what you're doing, and if you connect emotionally, mentally, and physically with someone, then the age doesn't matter...as long as you're 18 or older and the man treats you right, that's all that matters. Good luck with your man, and don't listen to anyone that gives you a hard time cuz of the age difference.
2007-12-16 12:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by janaenae143 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At your age, that difference shouldn't matter much. Unless he is bogged down by an ex-wife or children. And if you want children and he's already had his and doesn't want any more, that could be an issue. Just remember he's already lived a lot more life than you have and no matter how much you love him, at some point in the future you may think you missed out on a lot.
2007-12-16 12:48:55 · answer #10 · answered by mauicat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say I never thought people so young loved old men like 42 wow. But if you say you really love him than I believe you and I believe that some soul mates were born way ahead of time. So girlfriend you better love that man!
2007-12-16 12:46:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋