I don't have a lot of friends, and my fiance and I are planning our wedding, but we came to a brick in the road, and was wondering how to get around it. I want to have bridemaids at our wedding, but I don't have a lot of close enough friends to make the maids of honor or bridesmaids. So, I was wondering what do I do? Is there a way to work around the bridesmaid thing? But, then again, I want bridesmaids....help me!!
2007-12-16 12:41:31 · 18 answers · asked by Ashley H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My cousins and I never really got along growing up. Aunt, no, she is an alcoholic and doesn't like my fiance. My mom, no...simply, no. I do have a half-sister, but she is in Belgium...and her mother refuses to have her daughter(my half-sister) have anything to do with this side of the family.
2007-12-16 12:58:58 · update #1
My finace does not have any sisters either. He was supposed to have a twin sister...but she died at birth sadly.
2007-12-16 13:04:53 · update #2
How about relatives? Do you have any cousins or aunts that you could ask, maybe your fiance has someone he could ask as well.
EDIT: Do you have groomsmen already? If they're already married you could have the wives as bridesmaids. Maybe even sisters of the groomsmen? co-workers?
2007-12-16 12:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by mysteryperson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do not have good friends or family to be bridesmaids, and are opposed to having male friends be your attendants (or don't have any close male friends either), then you should skip the attendants. Sorry. The whole point of bridesmaids and groomsmen is that they are close to you and/or your husband to be. Frankly, being in a wedding is expensive and takes a lot of time, and people don't want to do it unless they love you. I once was confused as to why a bride I wasn't all that friendly with asked me to be in her wedding. I agreed, only because I didn't want to hurt her feelings -- I thought maybe she considered me a closer friend than I thought, and I felt guilty. Turned out that, no, she just wanted 8 bridesmaids following her down the aisle and couldn't care less about my friendship -- or the friendship about most of the rest of the bridesmaids, all but 2 of which she picked for the same reason she picked me. It cost us hundreds of dollars, a lot of time, and she really had no use for us when the wedding was over. Never again! And by the way -- if your bridesmaids don't really want to be in your wedding, they are not going to be much fun for you to deal with either, and that will add to your wedding stress. Skip the procession and just have a lovely simple ceremony with your husband-to-be.
2007-12-16 13:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by Susan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, the reason to have bridesmaids is not for the "look" that a line of bridesmaids will create at the altar, but as a way of having close friends nearby as you celebrate your wedding day. If you don't feel like there is anyone close to you, that's okay. There is really no reason to worry about it. There have been plenty of weddings where the couple asks a couple of friends to be their witnesses. It's works just fine and you will save a great deal of headache from not having to deal with bridesmaids.
If each of you pick one person you want to stand beside you on your special day, it will be simply elegant and lovely. Best wishes for a beautiful wedding.
2007-12-16 15:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by Woods 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What about someone you work with, or your groomsmans girlfriends. They may be able to help you and who knows you may make a friend that way. Worse case senario, I saw a wedding show where it was just the bride and all groomsman or they also had where in exchange for a maid of honor the bride had a best man too. I don't believe there are set rules on what you can have at your wedding. It is after all your day. Find what will make you happy. I don't believe in set rules. I mean how many first weddings do you have anyway. Have fun, don't worry about the stuff you don't have. Enjoy the stuff you do.
2007-12-16 13:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Weddings are more about the future than the past, so there is no need to be really close to the girls you pick for bridesmaids, maybe you have co-workers that you get along well with, pick people that you feel will support you and help you out with this dilema. Everyone will be excited about the wedding when it approaches and it tends to bring out the best in people when the day arrives. Hang in there and it will all work out, don't fret too much and enjoy your day! congrats!
2007-12-16 13:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well you could go with no bridesmaids. my mom didn't have any at her wedding. but you want them so i would try his side of the family. Does he have sister, cousins,friends? Maybe you can make friends with them
2007-12-16 13:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend is getting married next year - and she is having only one bridesmaid - me! :-)
Honestly, I didn't realize that we are best friends, until she asked me to be her bridesmaid. She moved here a few years ago and really doesn't have many close friends or family she can ask - so it is just going to be me!
Don't be afraid to ask people that you like - even if you are not the closest your friends.
Good luck and congratulations on your engagement! Wishing you guys lots of happiness!
2007-12-16 12:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by baltimorestar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Elope to Anguilia Island...no rules and the most beautiful natural wedding your mind cant even image. Say your vows at sunset on the beach. You only need those that come to be there or just the locals. Thats what we did. It was beyond words. When I walked down the beach in my linen white dress, no shoes, no hassles...all the people, half naked from Italy and Britian, stood up and clapped....a little half naked girl followed me and a beach dog as well....some tourists from America put on their flowered shirts and signed as witnesses, cost a bout $200 and the honeymoon counted as our trip to the Islands...WOW!
2014-12-31 04:04:19 · answer #8 · answered by Lost Missing Hercules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, I got stuck in a situation like that too.
my finacee and I are new to the area all of our friends live out of state adn I do not have many close girlfriends.
so I choose this girl I knew here in town and she turned out to be a nightmare. I had to change her position because she was stressing me out so bad and when I did that all hell broke loose with this chick because i didn't know her all that well.
so now I have my finacee's sister and a old friend from high school that I haven't seen in years who is comming to save the day. I guess i kept talking about the problems this girl gave me and many people felt my pain and offered to step in and travel if they had to . ( i felt much better)
as far as who is close or not just gather the girls together that you find. do not name or position anyone until you know for sure. just ask if they would like to particapate in your wedding when it gets time to order dresses then make your choice.
just breath and try to relax .. I know how you feel .
2007-12-16 13:01:35 · answer #9 · answered by la de da 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK the question is, if you don't have any female friends, or any female relatives you get along with, WHY do you want bridesmaids?
You could always do Man of Honor and Bridesman (basically guys standing on your side).
Other than that, if all options are shut down (including mom, or mom in law, sis in law, etc), what are you going to do? Buy some?
2007-12-17 04:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋