I am 26 years old. Got out of an 11 year relationship 3 months ago and a 2 month relationship 1 week ago. My bf of 2 months ended it abruptly even though we had strong feelings for each other and now won't even answer my calls and I mreally miss him. I am TERRIFIED of being alone. Since my 11 year relationship ended and I have to pay my bills alone, I have gotten myself into debt. I don't have any real friends and any friends or family i do have do like to be around me b/c i have a lot of anxiery and worry a lot. This life just seems way too daunting. I feel so alone. All day I've been trying to stop myself from doing it but the pain is just too much right now.
2007-12-16 12:31:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Don' be silly. Heavens won't fall if a relationship ends. You can make another acquaintance - may be after a cool off period. After a few years when you think of this you will feel like silly.
2007-12-16 12:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by uppaluri k 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
In this moment, you are meeting your greatest fear, being alone! Being with yourself is the best thing for you right now, and maybe you shoudl try not having a boyfriend for a while, it has distracted you from really getting to know and be yourself. You might have driven the other away becuase you might be putting out a needy energy that he doesn't want to deal with. If you've never been alone, you might be needy, and that is not an attracting force in any relationship, friendship or even work atmospheres. You need to commune with your spirit and find out who you are, dear.
Don't do anything life suicide, this pain of heart will pass, especially if you listen to the message the universe is giving you, to be alone for a while and look within. What's the worse that can happen??? You might find that you are beautiful and a piece of godself light that is incarnate in its own imaginings!
Well, I don't want to get too far out here, but check out some of these vids, they'll be inspiriing to you in your time alone and help you learn how to look wihtin and stop the mind from spinning so much, and find out who you really are. http://umsonline.org/SpiritualVideoSatsang/VideoFreeSatsangChristineBreese.htm If you want to read some really helpful articles along these lines, check out http://www.ucmeta.org/Pages/ArticlesDirectory.htm
2007-12-16 21:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Phillips 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 11 year relationship must have been tough to end. I can understand that. I'm 49 and about to get married for the second time. Life is funny but it's certainly worth living and I've had some tough times especially with my heart being involved. All in all, I made it though. And looking back I'm all the better for the tough times. I know this sounds cliche, but you're young. Give yourself and life a chance. There is so much more for you to experience. You certainly shouldn't end it all. Not now or ever. Things will change and time has a way of healing all wounds.
2007-12-16 20:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by Hakim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ending your life is not the answer, it is only the path to greater pain. There is something more meant for you. I suggest you see someone in counseling and work on getting some health issues right in your life. I have been there, see my profile. I know what I am talking about. I bet you are a person with a beautiful smile and bright soul who can do great things when healthy and feeling better. You need time to heal. Give yourself that time and don't worry about being alone. Become your own master, you can do it. Hang in there and call the suicide hotline or get yourself to a hospital if you really feel you can't stop yourself. Best to you.
2007-12-16 20:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by thewildeman2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with Beez on this one!
Having been there, 13 year marriage ended over the course of conversation at dinner, I can tell you from experience that all the counseling in the world is not as effective as your own PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT! Talk to your creditors, talk to a third party, but most important--look yourself in the mirror and say..."I am me.I am physically standing on my own two feet, and I will find the strength and determination to take care of myself! I will search out, learn, and use all tools necessary to that end!"
Good luck and good growth to you...it's your time, you know!
2007-12-17 11:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're saying. First of all, accept responsibility for yourself. Nobody else is obligated to take care of you. If you are behind on bills, call the creditors and negotiate lower payments. You can be your own best friend if you give yourself a chance. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
2007-12-16 20:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by beez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Snap out of it! If your gonna do it ...you better do it "right" or you will ruin your loved ones lives "and" make yours even "worse". There is always something to live for no matter how little you may think of it. Take yourself out and you lose all respect! Remember this. Tough times never last. Tough people do. If you put all your problems in a pot with everyone elses and picked out new ones, would yours now be better or worse? Think about that, then love everybody. Eventually sombody will love you back.
2007-12-16 20:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by Juk 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Look in the phone book for the Samaritans, and talk to them. They might help you find some answers, or at least give you different options.
2007-12-16 20:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reach out to someone. Talk to your family, or if your into that sort of thing, God.
You'll get over this if you work hard, I know you can do it!
2007-12-16 20:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋