I don't know if I should try to make this work or end it now. there is so much to forgive and forget?

Question

My girlfriend of 2 years and I broke up 3 months ago, mainly to get space, but knowing we would get back together. A week after this she wanted to get back, and i did too, but i said we should take some more time to fix what we needed to. she was upset and said she wanted me back. 2 days later she went to see her ex , and after this, she didn't want to get back, saying she needed to be single. over the course of the next month i begged for her back, sent her flowers, did everything i could. she was different, told me she didn't love me and to move on. we were at the same party one night, and i decided to try to move on, so i talked to other girls. one girl was on my arm flirting, and my ex flipped out, screaming at me and calling me an asshole. later she came to my apartment to see if i was sleeping with her (which i wasn't). after this she wanted to hang out again and so we did. the next 2 weeks went well until she told me she had slept with her ex 2 weeks before.

i was shocked and hurt. the whole time i had been begging for her and expressing my love to her she had been flirting and talking and sleeping with her ex. she had told me she needed to be alone and didn't want anyone. i was upset and told her i needed space, but she flipped out. she texted me saying she was going to kill herself that night because i didn't love her anymore. i didn't want her to die so i tried to forgive her. we hung out like before, but i felt different. i lost trust and faith in her. i gave in to her one night and we officially got back together. now she acts like nothing ever happened and everything is great. but now i feel like i'm not in love with her. she is planning our "2 1/2" year anniversary this thursday, but i sometimes feel like i am living a lie. after knowing what she did to be i feel like it will never be the same. should i end this or try to work through it? what should i do?

Answer 1

I think if you love her that much you should try to look past all of that and look at the future the past is the past theres nothing you can do about it just try to learn to trust her and look foward to having a future with her.
Trust me you dont want to do anything you are going to regret.

Answer 2

Ya know what sucks about this? People have a tendency to go backward in order to move forward. In relationships (I've done it myself) when we "need space" it's easy to go back to the ex for friendship, companionship or sex when we're still hurting from the sting of a breakup. Your gf did just that. She wanted to make sure that you wanted her back. Because she approached you first to get back together, and you declined, that set the control tone! It's a control issue that your dealing with. You turned her down, when she was ready to try again. Then seeing you with another, she wasn't in control. I'm not totally convinced that she slept with the ex. I think she just wants the emotional control in the relationship. All the beggin, and sending of gifts that you were doing.....she was in control! This could be the beginning of the end. Remember: when you break up with same girl over and over...it gets easier every time!

Answer 3

Ya, headcase - end it dude.

A relationship shouldn't be her saying "I want you, I don't want you, I want you, I don't want you."

I know, you love her - do me a favour and be selfish this time around. Obviously, you are either upset, pissed off, sad, or anything that is negative. End it and move on and find someone that doesn't piss around with time, like this.