split christmas, which one?

Question

My parents arent together anymore and i always spend christmas with my dad then i come up the day after. I always end up feeling guilty because im not with my mom, my step dad, and my two siblings who are little. I dont know what to do this year, because i dont want my dad getting upset and since my brother is home for the holidays from college. Any ideas, im starting to hate the holidays because i always get put in this situation

i just called him and he's like its not making sense for me to do this, and i cant stand it

Answer 1

Okay, here's the deal. From now on, don't discuss it with your parents, or you'll regret it. Just let them know what you want to do. I don't know the geographical situation, so not sure if they live close or not. One idea is you might want to spend Christmas Eve one year with one, Christmas Day with the other and then alternate. Or you could invite them to your house. Not sure if you are married and have inlaws to deal with. lol. It can get tricky if you let it.

My brother and sister in law would spend Thanksgiving with us one year and Christmas the next and then do the same with her family. That seemed fair as well. But don't let anyone guilt you into anything. It was their choice to break up the family, not yours and you might want to remind them of that. So now you are stuck trying to see everyone for the holidays. They'll just have to deal with it the best they can. They are responsible for their own feelings. You don't worry about a thing and let it go. It's their issue.

Good luck.

Answer 2

You are putting yourself into a situation, no one else is.

Do what you want to do... spend the holiday where you feel you'd like to! It's YOUR holiday too.

You can't clone yourself, so you can only be one place at the time. If you are going to your mom's and your dad gets upset, remember he is acting like a little kid.... UNDERSTANDING goes a long way.. everyone doesn't have that ability... they will get over it!!

Answer 3

Spend Christmas eve with your dad and morning with your mom-- it's more fun to spend christmas with little kids. Tell them you feel guilty and conflicted; usually parents (good parents) don't want their kids to feel bad.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Holidays are tough...because you want to see everyone...yet have your own traditions..it can get messy. We only have 2 places to go on Christmas day...so we are fortunate. I just make sure to see both sides of my family...mine and my husband's...no matter what. Even if we can only be there 20 minutes....it means soooo much to them.....and us really.

Answer 6

tell your dad how you feel
and that you wish tos pend xmas wth your mom and her family
but it doens't mean that you dotn love him anymore
at least just for this year that you wont be with him for xmas

also if your dad isn't remarried and still single, then forget what i said above, be with him =)

Answer 7

why don't you spend christmas eve with your mom and christmas with your dad?.... or do they live far