I want to get engaged to my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years but I don't want to actually get married for another couple years (if i get married my financial aid for college gets cut in half). My boyfriend seems to think there is something wrong with a long engagement, is there? Doesn't engagement just mean you plan to get married eventually?
2007-12-16 11:51:46 · 7 answers · asked by Dannielle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with a long engagement!
I actually applaud those who have a long engagement, that way you can REALLY save up for a nice wedding and honeymoon!
Engagement means you will be married. There is no set timeframe you MUST be married in.
The only opinions that should matter are yours and his. Talk with him about it, explain why you would want a long engagement, and find out from HIM why he thinks something is wrong with it.
2007-12-17 05:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were enagaged for about 2 years before we set a date. Both of us are in our late 20's/early 30's so its not like we were too young. We just wanted a few other things in line before we set the date and threw all of our focas and money towards a wedding. So I think that there is nothing wrong with a long engagement.
2007-12-16 12:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
we are able to be engaged in simple terms shy of a 12 months as quickly as we get married. there is not something incorrect with an prolonged engagement. Many couples are doing it and it extremely is transforming into further and further universal. My brother became into engaged for 4 years before they walked down the aisle. you have lots time to plot your wedding ceremony and make optimistic each thing is appropriate and in simple terms the way you pick it to be! Congrats!
2016-10-11 10:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope there is nothing wrong with a long engagement. i have been engaged for more than a year and his family just keeps telling us to get it over with but i have dreams and so does he and we want to focus on those before we actually start planning a wedding. we have been engaged for over a year. we are learning so much about each other and its great.
2007-12-16 13:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by YVONNE G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no theres nothing with that, what is the point of getting married if you feel your not ready to make that life long commitment. that is the main reason today that people tend to rush into a marrage and end up divorcing.
so id sit down and explain that your not ready to take that next step with your boyfriend, but tell him that its not because you do not love him you just need to take that step once you know that is really what you want to do, and that way you will spend the rest of your life with each other and know that you both made that right move but also you have to go half way with his feelings so sit down and compramise and it will work out for the best on both sides. good luck for the futurex
2007-12-16 12:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with a long engagement. You get to shop around, get the date you want, get the vendors you want, and save money by booking at an earlier year's rates. It's all up to the couple.
2007-12-16 12:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by Jill 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is right. The time of the engagement should only be the amount of time it would take to plan the wedding, which in a lot of cases is eight months to a year, depending on where you live.
2007-12-17 00:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋