My boyfriend is 18 years older then I am. He's in his early 40's. Anyways, we have an amazing relationship of almost 2 years. The sex is lacking in the last year. It's partly because of his anti depressent medications. He was severly heart broken from his previous relationship before me. Now that the honey moon phase of the relationship is over. He's satisfied with sex once a week and i want it everyday im in my 20's! Is this loss of libedo also something to do with his age? What is a girl to do?
2007-12-16 11:51:20 · 14 answers · asked by geminigirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depression meds can absolutely zap your sex drive right out of you. Have him talk to his doctor about it... there are some meds that aren't quite as bad with that than others.
My hubby is 42 and if he wanted to have sex every day I would be shocked. SHOCKED! LOL... it could be in part due to his age as well. Remember a dude in his 20's might be able to go at it like a rabbit but it's something quite different once you've aged a bit. If your sex drive is that demanding, you might want to consider either medical remedies -or- finding someone with a matching sex drive.
2007-12-16 11:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not his age. In his early 40's he should want sex about 5 times a week. If you said 3 or even 2, I might buy that, but once a week after you had an amazing relationship for almost two years. Its either the medication or something in your relationship has cooled him off to you.
2007-12-16 11:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by Glenn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be rude, but you have take a relationship with someone whose health/age issues may keep you for being taken care of as far as your passions. The question is what is it about your relationship that you care for? His talents or the person? There are things that can help him as far as his medication ( have him talk with his doctor about this problem with his meds) interfering with your intimacy, but this seems to be the secondary problem. I would maybe re-look at what is the reason for your relationship and what is the important things about it that you may or may not care to have. All the Best and Good Luck
2007-12-16 12:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by Joseph O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens to everybody. If you like him, you'll learn to work around it. My boyfriend and I are both in our 20s but he has problems getting his ahem ahem up and running sometimes. At first it was really frustrating, and honestly I did think about breaking up with him because of that, but than I realized that in the greater scheme of things, it matters more for me to be with him, sex or no sex, rather than whether we are getting hot, steamy sessions once a week or 3 times a week.
In a true relationship, you are there because of the person, not only because of the action.
2007-12-16 11:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by baltimorestar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His sex drive is lower than yours. That can have as much to do with personal preference as it does with his age. Honest, non-confrontational communication is the only way to go. Talk about it in a neutral place (never the bedroom), and bring up that you would like to try more ____________. Be specific. Tell him what you need. The only thing guys love more than sex is pleasing you, so even if he doesn't need sex every night, he'll work hard to meet your needs if you express them.
2007-12-16 11:55:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry its not really to do with age --- im older than him and would want sex a lot more than once a week ---- i suggest you talk to him and find out what the real problems are ---- best wishes
2007-12-16 11:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His loss of libido has nothing to do with his age. It has to do with the medication he is taking. You may want to encourage him to speak with his doctor and see if there is an alternative medication he can take.
2007-12-16 11:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by Diana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Partly age partly meds he should be able to get off the meds if he is happy now....
2007-12-16 11:54:49 · answer #8 · answered by jossieray 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most older guyys want it all the time i think it's the medication he's on but mayybe yyou should talk to him about have sex more often
2007-12-16 11:54:15 · answer #9 · answered by goodies make the boys jump on it 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes tired stop trying to do him all the time, give the boy a break
2016-05-24 06:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by virgina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋