Im in 8th grade and last night i was at my friends party. my crush//rly good friend was there and we were laying down next to each other and talking. He was saying some of his racist jokes again but he doesnt actually mean them but everytime he says them im like thats mean and then he'll hug me. For some reason he asked me if id ever dance wit a white guy and i asked him y but he didnt answer me back. the nite b4 a whole bunch of us were hanging out and i texted him to see if he was going and instead f just textin me back yes or no he called me. he also asks me to sleep wit him or give him a blowJ [4 some reason i still like him even though he asks me this stuff and im da only girl that he asks]why do u think he does all this stuff?? please help
2007-12-16 11:45:15 · 35 answers · asked by questioning 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
omg.... i am glad that i looked at your question cuz this exact thing happened to me... i mean, one of my best guy friends asked me if i would ask me to give him a ********, he'd always call me, we would lay by each-other and talk to each-other the entire time we would be at a party, and he would always kid around and make lots of racist jokes. And i would tell him that it was mean. it turns out that later on he admitted that he liked me, and he ended up asking up asking me out. i said no though cuz i didn't like it when he would always ask me to do "stuff" with him, but i never told him that it bugged me when he did that. but every now and then i wish that i would've said yes to him when he asked me out....oh, and i am in the eighth grade too!!!! anywayz, if he asks you out, plz say yes.... but don't give in to him when he asks you to do that stuff with him, cuz you will regret it down the road
2007-12-16 11:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He tells racist jokes because he is a racist.
He's perpetuating racism by doing so. Do not be flattered because he asks you to have sex or give him a bj!! He's a total creep!! You may not realize this, but you DESERVE better. There are plenty of guys who will respect you and treat you like a lady. Get as far away from this dude as possible. One day you'll look back and wonder what the heck you were thinking!
He does this stuff because he is a immature little boy trying to act like a man. He'll continue to do so as long as you and others tolerate this behavior from him. When it no longer works in his favor, he'll either change or slink around with other lowlifes.
2007-12-16 11:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by whatzername? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a punk ^%$ and really not worth your time. Guys are stupid and only want to use you for sex. If sex is what you want then wrap it up and get on birthcontrol. Your friend sounds like a real loser. I hope you find better friends to hang out with and in time you might find one of the rare good guys in this world well your weeding through all the muck and suck guys as friends only. Soon you will find dating is like drudging through the sewers with very few breaths of fresh air. If you do happen to enjoy a breath of fresh air, I hope you two enjoy each others company. Ounce guys get what they want from you they will go chase some other tail until they feel like hitting you up for another round. Guys can screw a thousand woman and have babies with all of them. You can only have a few babies with a few men. You need to be far more selective of who you play the adult game with just in case they become your babies daddy. Your friend is still a child and has a lot of growing up to do...if I was a girl, I sure as hell wouldn't want him to be my babbies daddy. Ten to one, he'll end up being a few babies daddies from a few different woman. Gaurd your heart, ounce you let some body steal your innocense and break your heart it's hard to find it again. P.S. like most guys, he's probably insecure and knocking other people down and sleeping with a girl will make him feel like a big strong man lol. Enjoy the attention you get from guys but make them work hard for your booty ... if used right, it can be worth a fortune.
2007-12-16 12:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I don't think that he is a good guy for you. It is unacceptable for a guy to even bring up BJs and sex until you are actually in a relationship! And yeah sometimes it is just funny to say racist jokes but to say them a lot around a black girl you like being a white guy probably means that he is feeling insecure about you being black and him being white. There must be a little bit of fear about the interracial dating thing in him or a little bit of racism he could've got from his parents. For instance, if a guy makes fat jokes about you, then gives you a hug and says just kidding and then asks you to give him Bjs would you stand up for it!? NO!
Racist jokes are only cool once in a while. I know this being both half black and white!
Girl it seems like you are too pretty, too smart, to get with a guy like this. He seems like he just wants to get with your pants to be honest. I mean the dance thing-he just wants to grind with you thats it! I say you find yourself a guy who is hotter, smarter, nicer, and doesn't ask you about sex before you go out with him.
2007-12-16 11:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by noname 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not respecting you by saying those jokes. He seems to be hung up on the race issue, not you. To be honest with you he sounds like an immature little boy who wants you for one thing. As to why you still like him, i have no idea. That is for you to decide, who knows you better than you? Find a guy who respects you and makes you feel amazing, not like a piece of ***.
That we're guys comment is a comment by another immature kid. Being a guy does not mean all we do is try to find a girl to sleep with. That's called being a little boy. Be a MAN and respect the girl.
2007-12-16 11:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because he wants you to sleep with him or give him a blowj, he probably knows that you fancy him and thinks he can get that sort of thing from you. He doesnt sound like hes intrested in dating because if he was he would of taken a completely different approach.
2007-12-16 11:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by jam1t1c 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like to me he's only interested in one thing and thats getting in bed with you. You are only in the 8th grade so don't rush into things. You probably aren't going to be his first and once he get what he wants, I am sure he will move on. Someone who hasn't had sex before isn't going to act in the way he is and I can assure you that you won't be his last. If you like someone then sex is the last thing on your mind, that comes in time. You should move on and don't talk to him because he is making it obvious what he wants.
2007-12-16 11:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby, hes a jerk. racist jokes
are NOT funny. just like asking
you to sleep with him and give
him head. but you cant help whom
you like right? he seems to have
some issues to me, but nothing
too sereous. if he doesnt smarten
up, try and get over him. you dont
want any bad influences. and you
never know what'll happen next year
in highschool. people change dramaticly
under pressure in highschool. take
it slow, your awsome and you dont
need a man to let you know that.
xxo
2007-12-16 11:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by babii-gurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your buddy is as queer as a $9 bill. Go get your self a real girl friend
Ian M
2007-12-16 11:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by Ian M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure you're the only girl he asks?? its not like he would say, "ya that girl just turned me down..would you do it for me?". If i were you i wouldn't do anything you would regret later..you don't want him to use you cause that would just hurt you worse later. see where he is coming from and see how he feels about you
2007-12-16 11:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋