I see several questions regarding break-ups after a relationship was too rushed.
How many have learned the hard way that you need to take it slow, get to know someone first before investing in them emotionally?
What else have you learned about rushing a relationship? I know those that do are either needy or desperate.
2007-12-16 11:16:20 · 9 answers · asked by MadforMAC 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
JL- "Crushing hard" IS desperate and needy! You have to control your emotions because it is just a physical thing, not something deep and meaningful. Therefore, caution!, because that is very superficial and you don't want to get your heart broken in the process.
Mature relationships begin with understanding you must get to know someone over time.
Experts say at least 18 months of seeing someone on a regular basis is necessary to know someone well enough to invest in emotionally. I will add to that, keep your eyes and ears open and make notes. If you "think it will get better", biggest mistake women make in relationships (a common one). If it didn't start out well, it will only get worse over time.
Learn when to cut your losses and move on, that shows you are taking care of your heart.
2007-12-17 04:54:17 · update #1
Chandra- That is exactly the point here, you don't know if "he's the right guy" unless you give it time and get to know who he really is, which usually is not who he says he is. If you can't control your emotions, best to learn how before the next guy comes along. Understand you are just fine without a man and respect yourself and protect your heart.
2007-12-17 04:57:28 · update #2
you are right, person who do this is needy and desperate a relationship is not something you step in and therefore should not be rushed even if your need for championship is high. if this happen there will be consequences (emotionally) and because the relationship is on the fast track you will not get to know the person properly so if the person is not worthy of you,you won't know until it too late and that's the emotional consequence.
2007-12-16 11:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by tashie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 03:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really have to be needy for desperate to rush a relationship. You can also just be crushing hard on the person! Like want to be with them all the time because in your mind they are simply wonderful.
You can do things to slow down the relationship if your partner is moving too fast. First thing is just to talk to them about it! If that doesn't work then take a break from the relationship and see if you two still want to be together in the end.
2007-12-16 11:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by Athena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I've kinda been in a situation like that.I think that when you rush things the relationship ends because one/both person/people feel like oh we've had sex and theres not much else we can do so we shouldn't be together anymore.
2007-12-16 11:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by broken</3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it was rushed - maybe - but I just wish I got out at the very first warning signs....not 2 years later after hoping that things will change - coz they don't
I promise myself not to rush things - but feelings do get involved and its hard to control feelings...unfortunately!!!
If its the right guy then maybe none of this matters!!
2007-12-16 11:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by chandra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I rushed into a relationship with my best friend's boyfriend's best friend and he still had a girlfriend but he told em he broke up with her before I started talking to him but a month and half later I looked at his myspace page and he was still with her and on top that he was in love with my best friend but he said he still wanted to be with me, but we rushed and we mad all these plan and said things to one another I can never let go of but we are distant friends now but I learned my lesson and will never make that mistake again!
2007-12-16 11:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by ♥I'm not Bob♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres no defintiton on how fast u should move the important part is that u both feel the same way and are ready for the stuff
2007-12-16 11:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah this girl i'v been seeing has it in her mind that i'm her girlfriend and it is soooo frustrating,i don't know what 2 do about her.i like her as a person & probably would have liked her more if she didn't try 2 munipulate me into being with her.when someone acts too desperate,they tend 2 try & push people into doing what they want ,when they want, and how they want......BUT I'M NOT HAVIN IT....THANK-U!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
TO all deperate people......."IT WON'T WORK, IT'LL ONLY HURT"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-16 17:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by fistupp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can also move to slow =p
2007-12-16 11:21:14 · answer #9 · answered by LostCause 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋