We broke up one week ago, her decision. She wants to be friends. says that we can be friends, start from the beginning, and take things slow. She doesn't want to see me right now bc she says i still have feelings and only when i can be her friend we can see each other..
We started out our relationship really fast from the get go, three weeks of knowing each other and have been dating. for 2 months, until last week.
It is so hard to see her as a friend than a gf.
She says she wants to be single, have fun with her friends..
what should i do?
is it the end?
this is really bothering me.
She has been hanging out with her guy friends and will take vacations with them this holiday. She wont even spend Christmas with me, instead it will be with someone else whom she calls a friend, an the unknown gender, due to information, when i spoke with her three days ago. In doing no contact and will try to heal my inner wounds.. hope i will be okay and over her soon. thx for reading.
2007-12-16 11:07:35 · 36 answers · asked by mangolove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
didn't you ask this already? well, follow your heart and you will be fine for the holidays!
-HeartBrokenForever *(Diane N)*
2007-12-16 11:13:23 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Dude this is the oldest con in the world , the "lets just be friends " line.
If anything says a relationship is over its the lets be friends line.Sorry to sound callous but I can tell you from personal experience that that line is the death knell for any relationship.
I can tell you know , she aint single and one of those "guy" friends is more than a friend and probably has been for a while.
The real reason she doesnt want you around is because you will cramp her style and she doesnt want to run the risk of being caught out so early.
Sorry for the timing , getting dumped at christmas sucks, been there too.
Being dumped can be tough, dont try and get back with her , she has already moved on.
Time for you to do the same. Why dont you see if there is a singgles club or social group in your area.
Still 8 sleeps till christmas dude, plenty of time to get out there.
Good luck
2007-12-16 11:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this as a great lesson on relationships; GO SLOW! When things are rushed, they always go sour sooner than later.
Take this time to just understand that this is a learning experience and start to release her. Someday, you may have a relationship, or not, whatever happens you now know what to do right in a relationship.
When people rush relationships they are needy or desperate. Don't be either. Get to know someone as a friend first, that takes a while, before investing emotionally. Or your heart gets trashed.
2007-12-16 11:13:29 · answer #3 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid it's best to just let her go and make a clean break of it. It may be possible, but it's a rare thing for a couple to break-up and quickly resume a relationship as "just friends." As far as the pain of the break-up goes, the passage of time will make things better. More importantly, there are many women in this world, and it would be wise to accept the probability that you haven't met the woman for you yet. Keep your eyes open, and eventually you'll find her.
Good luck!
2007-12-16 11:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by John73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you want to keep her in your life you need to try your hardest to just be friends. It is very hard but can be done. I had my first love when I was 17 years old and then we kind of decided that it wasn't going to go anywhere so I had that to get over. He was a few years older than I was but I truly loved him. After that we continued to be friends and still to this day are good friends and talk about everything. My husband doesn't like him but he deals with it. This friend is my best friend now.
2007-12-16 11:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by Candice B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
Time does heal everything so sure you can be friends with her but in time. Give her her space and you have yours. There are other wonderful people out there for you to meet. DOnt rush into anhything just enjoy being alone even though it may suck but just take reassurance in knowing it wont be forever.
It sounds like she just didnt want to be in a relationship, its not personal but she just wants to be free. You cant blame her for that and dont blame yourself either.
Move on enjoy other things then eventually you will be back to being mates who enjoy ecah others company but not in the same loving relationship way.
All th best
2007-12-16 11:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just do what she says she thinks is best cause she probably knows what she is talking about. Maybe she really likes these guy friends. Maybe she is just spending time with them to make you jealous because she secretly wants you back. Maybe she just thought you were going a little fast for her and she wants to just slow down and be friends. Maybe..... There are so many "maybe" answers but you will never know unless you spend more time with her.
2007-12-16 11:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by Maddieeliz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...I'm sorry about this... maybe you went too fast.
The female world is VERY complicated..And about the vacation with the other friend.. It might be distant family..Or a girl...Mybe if you try to do nice things for her or you just kind of go slower things will be back too normal..
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Hope this helps
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2007-12-16 11:15:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to be friends when you still have feelings for a person. If she is ignoring you I would try to ignore her to. It sounds like she thinks she is great and has better guys to hang out with. I would ignore her if she is going to be that way. Don't boost her self-esteem! She'll just act and think like she's better than everyone else. Hope I Helped! Allie=)
2007-12-16 11:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥Eryn!!(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you sound like a nice guy
here is the thing if she wants to party is
that she dint want to have a men
maybe she thinks that you are going to be there
for her when she wants to go back
but you cant wait for ever
and she is acting like a *** hole
if she dint even want to talk to you what
kind of friend id that you know she is just trying
to have you there as a back up just in case she
ends up by herself she knows that
there is going to be a dumass waiting
for her which is you
what you have to do is prove her wrong
go out with yur girlfriend and have fun
2007-12-16 11:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go.she's bound to see other people for a while, if i was u i would try and not think of her. she needs her space, and if thats the case, u moving on and acting like you dont even know her, is the best thing u can do. she'll see that u dont need her and will probably get really jealous.
try and meet new people. maybe youll find someone who makes you forget about your ex.
2007-12-16 11:19:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋