My 3year old duaghter Jenna i screaming and is trying to open her presents and tries sucking on the christma lights on the tree. and she will sream if she does not get it. I DO NOT TO SPANKS AND TIME OUTS DO NOT WORK.
2007-12-16 11:05:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Why have you got them under the tree...at 3 she cannot be expected to wait! Get them out of her isght and if she keeps sucking on the lights turn them off.
2007-12-16 11:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I have a 3 year old. Although he never even tried to open the presents, he has his moments. It's normal; however, as a parent, I'm learning quite a bit about the battle of will. I don't spank my child either, but I had to do it once just so he knows what it feels like. Also, I put him in time out. You say it doesn't work. It only doesn't work if you're not consistent with it. I use to have a hard time getting him to sit in the corner. Now he absolutely hates it and will sit there. He even automatically goes there by himself. I just give him a look, show him my hand, and point to the corner, and he stops what he's doing and say NO NO! Just recently, I've notice that his temper tantrum has become less and less frequent. He knows that I will not tolerate certain behaviors. He knows not to talk back. When he cries, I let him cry it out alone then I go talk to him. Don't get me wrong, I also reward and hug him for good behaviors (as a mean to encourage it). I am in disbelief that it's working cuz I use to be skeptical about time-out and such...but let me tell you, it's us against them...although their temper tantrums are annoying as heck at times, we gotta show them who's boss. I will not allow a 3 year old to run my house. I learn to be a little more strict with him than with my 7 year old because I figure every child is different and how you incorporate those boundaries vary with the degree of a child's temperament.
Good luck to you!
2007-12-16 22:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by Ana 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't spank, and you don't time out, then it seems reasonable to me that there should be some kind of barrier between your child and the tree/ presents. Although I do agree that having presents under the tree is just too much a temptation for a little one.
I totally understand why you don't spank, but why not a time out? It can actually be good for her, gives her time to calm down, collect herself so she can go about her day more happily. I am not judging your parenting, you know your child best, but I am wondering what other discipline techniques you use. I have a two year old and need all the help I can get! :)
2007-12-16 19:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by furfur 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, she's three - she doesn't understand about Christmas, and why the presents have to wait.
It would be much better to have the presents hidden away, and just bring them out on Christmas Eve after she's gone to bed. That's what we did when our sons were toddlers.
As for the lights - switch them off if she tries to suck them. Explain to her that she could get hurt, and you don't want that, so you can only switch the lights on if she doesn't touch them.
2007-12-20 13:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kukana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she is three you should tell her that if she does notlisten and stay away from the tree and presents that sants sees she is beeing bad and will not bring her any gifts to fill those boxes with. and if she still does not listen today then when she goest to sleep at night then you remove the lights and then the presents so when she askes where they went then you tell her you called santa to take them back!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-16 19:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by alexia's mommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does your daugther believe in santa claus? I have a 3 year old myself and she sees the presents under the tree but doesnt want to open them. she just point to them an says this is for my cousin and so on and so and fixes them so they look nice. you should just explain to her that she has a couple more days to wait . well my daughter is very understanding for her age.
2007-12-16 19:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by curious 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If time out isn't working,you may have to spank.
Do not argue with her. She needs to know you mean business and a little "pop" on her bottom just may get her attention. I think she will quickly associate the word NO with this "pop".
2007-12-16 19:14:20 · answer #7 · answered by wyomingcowgirl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe in spanking as well. You need to be firm and also be consistent with her. It sounds like she doesn't respect what you tell her to do. Have you been consistent in the past?
2007-12-16 21:04:30 · answer #8 · answered by lilwecky 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
if you give in, you loose this battle. personally, i think it's time for a spanking. a tiny swat with three fingers (not on her diaper) should be sufficiant to get her attention. whatever you do - do what works - if it doesn't work try something else.
2007-12-16 19:10:43 · answer #9 · answered by monkey 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
spank it works
2007-12-16 19:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by ello_motto242 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋