my boyfriend and i broke up a couple of days ago we decided to stay friends because he really doesnt have time for a relationship and im really busy both of us just wanna focus on school hes glad we're friends he said he wants my friendship but the other day when he knocked my door. he just walked in and started kissing me i still love it when we kiss. is wrong that kiss my ex and still have feelings for him?
2007-12-16 10:12:27 · 52 answers · asked by snookie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, it sounds like that he's not over you yet!
-HeartBrokenForever *(Diane N)*
2007-12-16 10:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Hey Neda...I hope you dont find my answer offensive and you probably wont like what I have to say but here it goes anyway. No, it is NOT Ok to still kiss. Why? The answer is simple, because the two of you "broke-up". You need to tell this guy it's either all or nothing at all. He cant have his cake and eat it too. His kisses still feel good of course, because you still love him! And believe me, he knows this. Just watch out too that the kissing doesnt lead to anything else either if you still decide to continue kissing him. First it'll be kissing, then it'll move on to other things..Your heart probably still aches for this guy. You didnt mention how long you've both been together either. People break up every day. Some remain friends (thats not unheard of) and some just never talk to each other again. If you want to try to continue a friendship, and think you can handle it without getting emotional then go for it. However, I'd leave the whole kissing thing out of it because then things start to get emotional and your mind will just go crazy and so will your heart. The two of you were adult enough to realize that you needed to break up for your grown-up, adult reasons. The fact that he's still kissing you though, is just an act of immaturity on his part if you ask me. I'm only saying this because I'm 27 years old and believe me, I've been in your situation. You'll just end up getting your heart broken and your mind will be played with. I'm sure you dont want that for yourself. Concentrate on school like you said and whatever else is going on..And if lover boy wants to come over and start "kissing" you, tell him to back off, and/or sit down and have a frank adult discussion with him about why he cant do this to you..Even if you enjoy it...Try to fight the feeling because like I said you'll just end up getting hurt in the end...Good luck
2007-12-19 08:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. You two didn't break up because you hate each other or because either of you cheated. So it's not that the relationship ended on bad terms so you two may still have a chance of rekindling the romance later on down the road. Just don't let him keep kissing you if he OR you find someone else. Until then though it is okay to enjoy what you both enjoyed without the strings attached. So just sit back and let the show go on!
2007-12-16 10:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lucia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in the same position as yourself right now.
I called it off with this guy and told him I just wanted to be friends because I didn't have time for a relationship and I just want to focus on school this year, the only difference is that he didn't understand me and became such a jerk about it.
With you guys, its like a mutual thing so its understood that you two don't want a relationship. You two still care about each other so for now its all rainbows and butterflies until one of you do something real stupid to hurt the other like getting into a relationship with someone else. That would be really messed up, but for now its cute you guys still have that connection and you can always become an item later on; right now its kind of like friends with benefits! ; )
2007-12-16 10:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by Melliebellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well kissing leads to other things. Before u know it you''ll be so attached to him and then if he gets another girl then you''ll be upset at him. The thing is weither he had time for you or not if he loved you then he would have stayed with you no matter what. He can't have just part of you, he must have all of you and all of u includes a relationship. Lay it on the table and let him know that u 2 are no longer together, put Ur foot down. don't let him take advantage of you.
2007-12-16 10:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to kiss if you are both okay with it. You don't sound broken up to me. Friends don't kiss in a sexual manner. You may be hurt in the end when he moves on to someone else. You sound like you are convenient for him when he has time and needs some loving. This is not a relationship it is just convenience. This sounds like he has another woman and can only fit you in. Beware
2007-12-16 10:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt want a relationship with you... he just wants to use you. You may love him, but dont go there girl. Hes just not that into you if he doesnt respect you enough to have a relationship. ever heard the phrase "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free"? So shut down the milk factory and find a guy who will respect you. Unless of course you want meaningless sex and dont care...then mack away
2007-12-16 10:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by Carol P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You question sound similar to what happened to me, My ex-gf and I broke up becaiuse she was working two jobs and trying to make time for me, I felt that was unfair to her and suggested it to her and we agreed, we both still have feelings for each other and have kissed. I think both of you still have feelings for each other but both of you came to a conclusion that you did not want to see either hurt and that at the time its for the best. He may find someone new or you may find someone new, but if you both do feel still the same It not out of the realm of getting back together when things ease up. I've heard a lot of people say you can never mutually break-up but it does happen. I would suggest talking to him about how he feels for you and find out how you feel for him and maybe find out if a second chance when things calm down for you both is an option. I wish you luck on what ever your choice is.
2007-12-16 10:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by Kitoth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both need to decide which you want to be, friends or boyfriend/girlfriend. If he still says he just wants to be friends then watch out for being a friend with "Benefits". That is the way women are used. They say you are good enough to make out but not good enough to take out. Can only be bad for you!
2007-12-16 10:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by B. D Mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not "wrong" but if you keep doing it, you will remain emotionally attached and just get hurt...
I would advise you to have a just-friends relationship, and if you get back together, then go ahead and kiss still....
but if he doesn't have feelings for you, for sure stop the kissing...and if he does...see if you can repair the relationship. Otherwise one, or both, of you will get hurt.
2007-12-16 10:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer understand your co-worker is almost the rebound guy in this concern surprisingly in case you nonetheless have thoughts on your ex. take it slow to get well and have some you time to sparkling your head. you probable should not be attempting to get into yet another dating correct now. tell your co-worker that it occurred because of the fact which you 2 have been inebriated and you purely have been given over a terrible breakup and you at the instant are not waiting for a dating yet. and you ought to no longer be scared in the adventure that your ex shows out. he broke up with you. Do you truthfully think of he's fearful of doing the comparable with different ladies. Honey get on with your existence i understand its annoying after breakup yet purely attempt to go on. it will be extra helpful for you interior the long-term.
2016-11-03 12:20:52 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋