She dated this guy a few times, does not love him, says she wants him to give up parental rights to child and raise child alone. He has already given up parental rights previously when he got another girl pregnant. He's not a criminal or druggie. What's best for the child is the main question.
2007-12-16 09:58:34 · 14 answers · asked by Bette 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Unless she has a reason to ask him to give up parental rights (for instance, he's abusive), she's rather selfish and immature to ask him to do so. She's basically using him as a sperm bank. After all, it's HIS baby, too. Who's to say he won't be a great father? Just because she doesn't love him doesn't mean he doesn't deserve a chance with his child. What's best for the child is to have TWO parents, if they are both willing to be a part of his/her life. That doesn't mean Mom and Dad have to be together; as long as Dad is an active part of the baby's life, the child will benefit.
2007-12-16 10:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by SoBox 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
a child needs a mom and a dad. however i do not believe they have to be the biological parents. so if dad doesn't want to be there and gives up rights, then fine. in this day and age she will not find it hard to get another man. As far as being a single mom. as long as she has support of her friends and family, it will be hard, but she will be ok.
however i am big on knowing who you are and knowing your blood line. so when dad signs over rights i would tell dad some day I'm going to tell his child about him. and give him the information to find him. that way if he wants to know, he can look him up.
what is best for the child is love.
also this might not be your place to give her advice. make sure you know what you are doing before you but in.
2007-12-16 11:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by old bitty 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-27 22:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with G.G.
It depends on her financial situation, education and maturity. Sounds like the sperm donor needs to be "neutered". She also needs to think about the future ramifications if there are a bunch of half-siblings out there. I would hope she wouldn't want her child dating and getting pregnant by one of them. There's an excellent book out there to help her decide.
I don't want to be a hypocrite but then again I was 38 when I adopted my little girl from Russia. I wouldn't have dreamed of doing it had I not had the love, the savings and not daring to bring another child into this overpopulated planet.
single adoptive mother by choice
2007-12-16 10:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by noodlesmycat 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Does she realize how difficult it will be raising a child as a single mom? Is she being fair to herself as well as to be child? Should she really let the guy off the hook financially, etc., by letting him bow out as a parent?? It sounds like it's his pattern, and someone needs to force him to face the results of his irresponsible actions.
She should strongly consider adoption, if she wants what is best for her child.
2007-12-16 10:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by Patsy A 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm....
Well Personally I would recommend abortion. If in the case she is pro-life I would try and work something out with the boyfriend,
If that dosent work, that sucks because a child really needs a father.
Hopefully she has a good support system and chooses to use birth control or plan b next time.
2007-12-16 10:40:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Since she knows the young man best in this situation, you have to defer to your friend's judgement. If that means she thinks it's best to raise the child herself or with a different partner, then that's what should be supported. I would advise her to make sure she has a lot of support from family and other friends and that she continues her education, if she's not already finished.
~Raja
2007-12-16 10:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Don't give her any advice unless she asks for it. it really isn't any of your business. If she wants to have a child, thats her business. She isn't a child and is as capable as any other parent.
You stay out of it unless she asks for your advice. Does she give you unsolicited advice about your private life? If you're her friend, continue being her friend and just be there for her. If you think its your place to straighten her out, then you're not the kind of friend she needs in this situation.
Since you asked...my advice? Butt out!
2007-12-16 10:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by Question&Learn 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
To make sure she has a job maybe a small one and, insist on going back to school even if it's just an assosciates degree.Tell her you will be there for her but try to also teach her to be independant too.
2007-12-16 10:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jessicca Francis 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Best for the child is to have love, not lust.
2007-12-16 10:19:16 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋