I met this amazing boy, and the next day he told me he liked me. When I would talk to him, it was like I saw noone in the room but him. I have heard that he is a 'womanizer' but I really think we have something. Then he moved, and the night before he left, we didnt do anything, because I told him that I wasnt ready. (He is four years older than me)
After he moved, three months after texting all day and talking all night. We planned him to visit twice a year, and he told me he loved me. (Not in a ILY! way. Things got all quiet, and then he quietly said "I know I love you.") Yesterday we decided to have a relationship, after wondering if we were dating for months, we took the plunge.
How do I keep it fun and exciting?
Oh, and he moved 1000 miles away.
2007-12-16 09:55:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, it is an open relationship. If he is at a party, he can be with other girls, but just keep me in mind.
2007-12-16 10:03:26 · update #1
I hope that your relationship is open because you both want it that way not just becuase of him. I've been in one for 4 years now, he lives in Germany and i live in US. We use webcams to see eachother online which is fun. Letter are good too becuase they are more personal and its a nice surprise. We also send small carepackages to show we are thinking of eachother. My bf and i see eachother about one month out of the year sometimes more or less. It just takes a lot of communication, trust and honesty so if you two can both do that then you are off to a good start. When you talk just talk about everything and anything doesn't have to be just about the relationship. I once sent my bf a shirt i bought for him and before i wrapped it put some of my body spray on it and he really liked that. Long distance relationships can work, just depends on the people. Age is not a major issue, its the maturity of the people involved. My bf and i were only 16 when we started dating and started our long distance relationship. I personally dont' agree with open relationships becuase why would he want to kiss another girl if hes with you (distance doesn't matter, my bf and i have never cheated on oneanother). Email me if you have more questions.
2007-12-17 16:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by Isabella20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in for a rude awakening! I tried this as I am sure lots of people have and it always ends with one of you or both of you meeting new people and moving on. It is just human nature to want the attention right then. I only lived 3 hours away and was crazy for her and she was crazy about me, but the day to day interaction that is not there is replaced by people who are there, and it has nothing to do with how much you love each other, cause your heart will move to the person that is there. If this were to work the only thing you can do is have an open relationship that allows you both to date, and be honest about it. and when the time comes when you can go there or he comes back then you can start it back up.
2007-12-16 18:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by david h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can text and send letters and cards. I don't know how old you are, so you may want to consider are you going to college or do you plan on marrying this guy or what is your perspective on life. The reason is long distance relationships are pointless if there is no intent of being married within a year or two.
2007-12-16 18:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine23511 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive had a few long distance relationships.... best thing to do is to not make is extremly serious---have fun with it, talk about what you guys will do the next time you meet---but don't become obsessed with talking about that, bucase then you will start to feel depressed that you are not seeing him as often as you would like. ...if its not TOO much of a distance and you can get to him somehow...text him and find out what hes doing that day, and surprise him by showing up too. thats always fun..
2007-12-16 18:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Dana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep in touch and the fun and exciting part has to come from within --- i found out that just hearing her voice and having her tell me what she is up to is enough --- and its not that far apart --- 1600 km is really only about 2 days away by car and maybe 2 hours by plane ---- see each other as often as possible and move together as soon as possible ---- best wishes
2007-12-16 18:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are....if your like 18 you shold visit him on major breaks or holidays....you should try to plan halfway meet ups (you go 500 miles he goes 500). Talk as often as possible...try spicing things up with phone sex maybe and constantly send random pictures so they feel part of your everyday life. These relationships can grow and blossom....when thinkng about college if yall cant go to the ame one try going to one thats close so that visits arent as difficult....IF ITS LOVE THEN IT WILL WORK...TRUST ME!
2007-12-16 18:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always 50-50 chances of survival. one of you have to move permanent to his/her place. Otherwise sorry, relationship wont last long....sorry this is my point of view about long term relationship.
2007-12-16 18:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by Kaaran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling,
You don't say how old you are, but I'd dump him! a mere 1,000 miles away? Don't let him use you.
luv,
Aunt Penny
2007-12-16 18:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by aintbeggin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to burst your 'love balloon' but it wont last. A relationship works when you are together and spend quality time together.
2007-12-16 17:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by mexxikitten 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry to tell you but it never works.....Move on before you become even more attahed,,,,
2007-12-16 17:59:10 · answer #10 · answered by yazmin21 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋