I was bridesmaid at their wedding when I was 12, I am now 28 and have seen them once since. My father still sees them but we do not even send birthday cards. Ought I to invite them to the wedding?
2007-12-16 08:50:45 · 29 answers · asked by Soso 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would, is it worth hurt feelings? They are still a part of your family and I'm sure it would hurt since they still keep in touch with your father.
2007-12-16 08:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by madison134 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Invite them! They are family, and you don't hate each other, so that is a great start! :-)
Send them invites and follow up with a call. Let them know that although throughout the years, you really haven't seen them as much as you would have liked too, you'd like to use your wedding to get the family back together, and to please have them share in your special day.
They will feel special and very appreciative of the invite - regardles of whether they can make it or not. Either way, they would feel that it was nice of you to think of them on your big day, and will tell your dad what a wonderful and thoughtful daughter he has! And next time he sees them after your wedding, they will have more happy moments to talk about!
2007-12-16 20:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by baltimorestar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but only if u want 2. It's no point invitin people just 2 make up numbers so that ur weddin doesnt look small. I didnt invite some family members bcoz I didnt have much of a realtionship with them. Do wot feels rite 4 the both of u.
2007-12-17 04:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you haven't seen them in 16 years. Is that because of distance or because of a family falling out?
There might be some bad blood that you're not aware of. I would ask your Dad what's going on; how come they never come around to family functions.
If it's because of distance; I would still at least send them an invitation and be sure to include an RSVP card. All it's going to cost you is postage. And maybe because you were special enough to be in their wedding, they will come to yours!
2007-12-16 17:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by On My Own 316 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humm this is one of those questions that will have a variety of answers and non will be at 100% because this is a personal choice. You have to go within yourself and find the importance of whether or not you want to bring the family together including those relationships that have gone astray through the years in hopes to rekindle on this joyous occasion or let go and move on and include only those that have proven their loyalty and create a more intimate occasion. Either way it is a choice that only you can make.
I tried to recreate the closeness I once shared with my cousins with my children and theirs by inviting to every birthday party but rarely if ever did they come. I learned that those memories I hold dear to me wont happen in the lives of my children and theirs and sadly we are only reunited when a loved one passes on. I'm only too greatful that my friends and my immediate family are what keeps me strong and are my closest in which I can count on in any event.....Good luck on your decisions....{{hugs}}
2007-12-16 17:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by spiritbodynsoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends; is this a good sized wedding or just close friends and regularly seen relatives? Or are you inviting many? They are family, but if this is a small wedding, no need.
2007-12-16 16:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whether you are having a big family wedding. If so then invite them, but if you are having a smaller intimate wedding for close family and friends then don't.
2007-12-16 16:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, invite them, mainly because they're family, but if the wedding is going to be small and just family and friends -then no -not necessarily
2007-12-16 16:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by catsangel777 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Unless you plan a very small wedding you should invite them.
You might be surprised to find how much they care about you (or not). You risk nothing by inviting them, I think.
2007-12-16 16:54:51 · answer #9 · answered by SJ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is proper to send invitations to all family members. Whether or not they attend the wedding is up to them. Many family member view weddings as an ideal time to catch up and renew relationships as well as extend best wishes to the bride and groom.
2007-12-16 16:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by sursumcorda 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋