The office party is at a remote location and does not include spouses, but I was given special permission to attend.
Should I go, given that I was asked to go by the "big boss", but will probably be scrutinized by other colleagues; or should I not go and don't worry about it?
I want to go, but I'm afriad other colleagues will think "favorites" are being played.
2007-12-16 08:28:15 · 23 answers · asked by ♦♦pixiechix♦♦ 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Pixie,
I have not reviewed the other answers to your question in advance of answering this. I suggest you attend this event as you have described the "big boss" has asked you to go.
Where I currently live and reside this is normally a "good sign" of important things to come. Normally, these "things" represent a potential promotion and although freindliness will prevail during the event - be cautious as every move you make and EVERY drink you drink will be watched. An unofficial "promotion" or "pass to the next person" will likely be the result.
I am not saying this is fair - just "the way it is".
Gerry :)
2007-12-16 11:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by Gerry 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
As you were specifically asked to attend it is within your right to attend despite the fact that other spouses are likely to not be included. Had another spouse been asked and not you, you would not be in the right to attend.
As you do not work in the office I would discuss this question with your spouse. If your spouse is uncomfortable with you attending because he/she doesn't want to feel uncomfortable after the party at the office then I might suggest that you not go. You could even send the 'Big Boss' a card thanking him/her for the invitation but that you had to decline because (insert reason here . . . in this situation I would find a reason to give) but you are grateful to have been invited and then wish them a happy holiday.
On the other hand, if your spouse is excited that you were invited and can't wait to attend this party with you and isn't worried about other employees then I highly suggest you go!
No matter how you feel personally, this is a situation that I believe should be had with your spouse and a decision the two of you should make together.
2007-12-16 16:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, when a person (your husband) is being considered for a promotion or a move to a level of more responsibility, the boss wants to take a first hand look at this person's wife in order to get a feel for the quality of the individual's marriage and to see how his wife handles herself in a social situation.....a person in a good stable marriage makes not only a good employee, but a good leader..........this might not be the case, it might just be an invite to have a good time, but I don't think you should take the chance by refusing......you've everything to gain!!............anyway, have a great time!!
2007-12-16 16:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by pilota300b4 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband have been put into a very bad situation. (I wonder if perhaps other spouses have been invited unbeknown to you?) If you are sure you'd be the only one, I would NOT go. This just sounds like too much trouble down the road for your husband.
The higher up was certainly out of line to have invited you and no other spouses.
2007-12-16 18:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose, in a situation like this, it is probably best that you not attend. Though I'd love to tell you that it would be fine, since you received a special invitation from the head-honcho, etiquette says otherwise. It would be terrible to cause some sort of animosity amongst co-workers.
However, it is ultimately your decision. Perhaps ask what your spouse thinks.
Good luck & Merry Christmas!
2007-12-16 16:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel W 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Same thing happened to me recently. Spouse was invited to an exclusive resort lodge for the weekend and the invitation was extended to me as well. Same deal, very remote location.
My first reaction was "oh, god, please spare me from this crapy, horrific nightmare".
Spouse really wanted me to be there, so I went.
Had an excellent time. Just be yourself.
By the way - don't drink alcohol.
2007-12-16 19:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard of the saying 'behind every successful man there is a woman'? Your husband must be very respected for you to be 'summoned'. Maybe he is line for promotion, don't worry about anyone else, support your spouse, and try not to get tipsy and dance on the table!
2007-12-16 17:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wonder why they asked you.
If you actually converse with the "high up" person, you might make your concerns known.
If other spouses are not invited and it is strictly an "office party", I suggest you don't go.
Something seems odd to me.
2007-12-16 16:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by pricetravel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the "big boss" asked you, I would go and not worry about it. Maybe favorites are being played, but I would be more afraid of offending the boss, since he/she went out of their way to invite you.
2007-12-16 19:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be rude not to go if you were invited by the big boss. You attending the function also has potential to do wonders for your spouses career.
2007-12-16 16:44:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋