This year we're literally living on pinto beans. We make $1000 too much to apply for any welfare. I have a two-year-old daughter and a loving husband, but we just can't afford presents this year. I know my mother-in-law is going to have a duck-dying fit that she doesn't get a present this year. What should I do?
2007-12-16 08:11:25 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They are churches & other places you could go for assistance. Kids that young,you can go to Dollar Stores & get dolls & things for $1 each & they would be satisfied w/that. Adults too,if you wanted. I know I've had to do it before & still do,not because I have to,but because they are some really cute things there. I'm sure your mother-in-law isn't that heartless. We all feel that are mothers-in-laws are the worst at times,but I'm sure she will understand the situation & would much rather her family have food & a house w/utilities turned on than a present at Christmas. Don't fret so & enjoy the season. Good luck & have a Merry Christmas.
2007-12-16 11:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by glorydvine 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course that doesn't make you a bad mother. Many people struggle at this time of year.
You could always give your mother in law a homemade voucher for a back massage or a homecooked meal. Are you sure she will be so unreasonable? If you explain the situation to her she may surprise you.
Anyway you have a loving husband and a gorgeaus daughter that is a real blessing. My husband is lying in bed dying from a brain tumour and will be lucky to be here at christmas, he is only 47 and we have 6 children. Life goes on the world doesn't stop, so have a Merry Christmas.
2007-12-16 08:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by Daisy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all tell your mother in law to take a long walk off a short bridge because your child is more important than she is. Second, i know how you feel, we are in the same boat this year, my husband is the only one that works, and he has had two accidents at work this year that have put him off work for a couple of months each time. I have been worried to death about it, but I have come to realize that no matter how much I worry, it's not going to grow me a money tree in the back yard, so just take each day as it comes and be thankful that you have a husband and daughter to spend this holiday with because that is all that really matters. Good luck and god bless you and your family. It will all work out in the end =)
2007-12-16 08:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by reneck girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad, if you can't afford any presents just don't think about it. The real meaning of x-mas is to be thankful for what you have, and you should teach your kids that same meaning, when you can buy gifts you can, but when you cannot there is nothing wrong with that. When i was a kid i spent many holidays without any presents, and to be honest with you now that I receuve presents and give presents is more of a hustle to have to choose stuff and wait in long lines just to find out that what I gave was not good for some people.
2007-12-16 08:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by Kachakuaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't go wrong with home-made crafts. You can use stuff around the house to decorate. I always make my family home-made things for their birthdays and other small holidays. They love the thought. Get some pretty string and some beads and string some necklaces! My parent's electricity went out and so my dad says we're going to have a black Christmas. It does not make you a bad parent if you can't afford presents. It the thought that counts, right? Here, I'll give you a couple websites for cheap christmas ideas....
www.christmascarnivals.com/christmas-present-ideas/
www.betterbudgeting.com/articles/money/63giftsunder10dollars.htm
www.theromantic.com/stories/christmas/christmas4.htm
Hope this helps. Merry Christmas!!
2007-12-16 08:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by sparkle_sticks_101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be happy that you can be thare for you're family and you're child! that's what christmas is about. your mother-in-law should care about the love and time you spend with her son!
the best gift ever is the smiles when you wake up & all of that stuff we roll out eyes to...it's real
my 23 year old sis was killed in oct. she had 2 boys ages 2, and 3 and a girl age 5..and a younger sis me 16!
what i would i give just spend 1 hour with her on christmas
you are a great mom just being there to hug her you keep a home for you're family TRUST ME thats what matters not the cards, cute boxes, bows, and all that stuff...it is christmas dont lose sight of what matters..this comes from a 16 year old. she should understand
MERRY CHRISTMAS
2007-12-16 08:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by Ruby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should make a homemade gift. They are always better than any pre-made gifts. Even the simplest gift will help becasue.... it is the love that counts in making a great present. It might not be the prettiest gift or the present that every person is getting but it is the amount of love and care you put into it
2007-12-16 08:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by Maddie G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there have been some cases that the in-regulations have in simple terms undeniable forgotten approximately me (or disregarded, yet not forgot.) The worst is my birthday. i've got been married for 18 years, and my mum and dad have not as quickly as forgotten my spouse's birthday. i'm fortunate if those men will come as much as me 2 months later and say "howdy. did not you have a birthday a on an analogous time as lower back?"
2016-10-11 10:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell ole Mom In Law to take a flying leap. Also reach out to Goodwill or Salvation Army as they usually will help with gifts for the children.
2007-12-16 08:14:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well best thing to do is give her a pie or a cake and she should be happy. Or just do like some people do give her an IOU and write on it that you can go to her house and help with the house cleaning for one day or babysit for free for a day. Just think of something she need help with and do that. And for your family they should be happy they you have been there for them and that your doing the best you can to feed, cloth, and be there for them. SO they are the one's that should gie you a certifate saying they will clean the house or something else so you can rest. ANd you know what you can give your husband, bet he will like it. SO good luck
2007-12-16 08:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by John S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋