What is your definition of adultery? Read the whole question before answering please I'm trying to get a clue?

Question

O.K. I know it has to do with sex! What I want to know is this.... If I was a virgin (yeah right) and I had pre-marital sex with another virgin, is "that" considered adultery? Reason I am confused was a pastor said it was, but, if 2 virgins have sex, doesn't the act make them married in God's eyes? Which pretty much dissolves the concept of there even being a possibility of a term "pre-marital sex if the act makes you married. I'm reminded of the woman at the well who said she was gathering water for her husband, and Christ said as a matter of fact you have multiple husbands. (something like 6-7) Did she actually have 6-7 wedding ceremonies and forgot to divorce each prior groom, or was the act of having sex with a different guy each time the reason she was considered married to each guy? If this is the case, how can there be a term "adultery" when you are married by the act, and you can not be labeled an adulterer by having sex with your husband? No self-righteous idiots please!

Answer 1

well i think the bible makes it clear that adultery is a married person having sex with someone else ... particularly a woman that is or has been married before having sex with someone other than her original husband unless he is dead ..

Answer 2

Marriage is marriage . If one person is married and dates another at the same time that is adultery. Sounds like some serious brain-washing here to think that adultery would mean anything other than that. Pre-marital sex doesn't make anyone married. I surely would seek a different pastor, at least one with some intelligence who isn't leading his flock down the wrong path. This guy is scary!

Answer 3

welllll...I heard about the woman at the well but maybe your good book has something added that mine doesn't have. I know she was getting drinking water but I don't recall the book saying for who. I do recall something about her being described as a prostitute. I don't really know if the word "prostitute" in that case meant she simply answers to too many people (i.e. trying to please too many people). I do know that she acknowledges Jesus and asks to wash his feet, and later on is at the cross with Jesus' mother. So I figure either she repented, His dieing cleared her of sin and that's why she was at the cross, or whether she really wasn't a bad person. Some of the bible is misconstrued, I think, because like my mother said about the language she knew (English was her second language) that 100 words in her first language meant the same as 1 word in the English language.

I know prior to Jesus' coming (maybe way back) that God said to "increase and multiply" and I don't think he was talking about math, or at least math as we know it today. Because back in those days people married their own relatives and men had many wives (but some of that is still so in India, Pakistan and other countries today).

I think a marriage takes place, at least in my religion, at the wedding "ceremony" in which the couple is bound to each other and to God. I can see where a minister might want to be convincing to young pre-marriage couples in suggesting that a cancelling of virginity means the couple is bound and must marry because by the courts if the dna is that of the father then the father must pay for the child's upbringing. And, like in the case of Ishmael and Isaac even though from two mothers God still said (back then) that "both" would be accepted. I don't know if the maid was a prostitute or a virgin, but doesn't seem to matter to God even though there wasn't a marriage. As far as just having sex, in some religions it is a defilement unless they marry. Gee, I don't know, depends on the religion I guess. In my book premarital sex doesn't make two people married, whether they are virgins or not. I learned that adultery comes after the commitment (i.e. the commitment thru the church ceremony and blessing of that marriage). The law says adultery comes after the paperwork has been entered at the courthouse.

Answer 4

Adultery is sexual relations between two people at least one of whom is married to someone else. If neither is married, it's fornication. Premarital sex between two unattached people doesn't make them married unless they INTEND it to. (Even then, most others won't agree with them unless they make it official with some kind of ceremony.)

As for the woman at the well, it's not clear whether she had legally married x husbands (five, actually) but was just living with x+1 (#six) or whether Jesus, who said elsewhere that anyone who put a spouse aside and remarried was committing adultery, meant that none of her marriages but the first had been valid. It's possible that all of her husbands died and that she got tired of broken glasses and just moved in with her man but could have legally married him. In any case, Jesus never used the word "adultery" to her.

Answer 5

Sex between a man and woman is considered a very sacred thing, that should not be engaged into without the utmost care and consideration. If two virgins decided they would make love, it would be best and not a sin if they were committed to each other as if they were married. So basically, if you are going to have sex with someone, make sure you want to marry them in the future. If not, that is considered fornication. That's the way I've interpreted it.

Answer 6

Interesting question. Exploring the dictionary definition, first: - the word comes from "adulterate": to make inferior, impure, not genuine by adding a less valuable substance. "Adultery" is defined as "voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and a woman not his wife, or between a married woman and a man not her husband." And, 'infidelity' is defined as sexual unfaithfulness of a husband or wife; adultery.
So, according to these definitions - the issue is about breaking marriage vows. Virginity or lack thereof appears unrelated to this issue. Bringing the concept of 'God' into this question turns the topic into "personal opinion" - so, your question appears to suggest you already have your own answer - based on your personal religious beliefs - and that's great! Best wishes

Answer 7

1. It's a commandment not to have adultery, so there is obviously such a thing as adultery and we're told not to mess with it. 2. Jesus gave a further explanation of adultery in Matthew 5:27-30. Part of what Jesus said was that whoever even looked at a woman with lust in his heart has committed adultery. Please, read this explanation of adultery as listed above. A person is to be married before having sex and sex is to be with your married partner only.

Answer 8

evidently there were ceremonies 5 times

18 for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; in that you spoke truly.”

I agree with you that if you are both virgins that consumates your marriage but if you don't marry then it gets into another realm

Fornication, or simple fornication, is a term which refers to consensual sexual intercourse between two persons not married to each other[ In contrast adultery is consensual sex where one or both of the partners are married to someone else.

Answer 9

You can’t apply modern day concepts of Marriage to 1st century Judea .

There are those of the opinion that there was no such thing as a Marriage ceremony , but the physical act of making love made you Husband and Wife. Remember in those days Jewish women had no right of divorce and men just needed to say ‘ I divorce you ‘ three times.

The poor ol' woman at the well didn't wait for her husbands to say I divorce you 3 times , she was a feminist and left of her own accord.

Answer 10

Just sex does not make you married. a valid consent usually before qualified witnesses of a lifelong mutual total commitement of a man and a woman to each other to bring up a family is what constitutes marriege. Once in such a union, sex with another or a love affair with another is adultery. If none of those involved in sex is married it is fornication... for more complex things consult experts.

Answer 11

As far as I know, in the Bible, adultery only refers to being married and having sex with someone who isn't your spouse. So long as you aren't married, I don't think the Bible explicitly says it's adultery, nor that there is anything wrong with it. However I have yet to read the Bible in its entirety, so I could well be wrong about that.

As for having sex meaning that you count as married, I'm not sure exactly how the Bible views that either. I know there's something about rape that says you have to marry someone you rape, but I don't know whether consensual sex works the same way or not. Additionally, I'm not sure if the Bible explicitly condones the possibility of having more than one spouse.