I have a 10 year old son and recently he's been telling me I treat him like a baby.
I really don't. I put him to bed at 9:00. I let him make his clothing descisons and I give him $10 a week for an allowence just like his younger brother and older sister. I'm a single parent and he has no male influlence at all. I am trying too get him into the Big Brother program.
What should I say whenever he claims I treat him like a baby? Should I really treat him like one? I have a 8 month old girl and he knows how babies are treated. HELP!
2007-12-16 07:46:44 · 12 answers · asked by Dina 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
What I mean by treating him like a baby I'd:
.Chose his clothes
.Put bubbles in his bath
.Make him wear bonettes
.Feed him
.Make his bedtime 7:30.
He isn't ready for another responsability since he hardly ever does chores.
2007-12-16 08:01:39 · update #1
Also I'd:
.Pinch his cheeks
.Call him baby names infront of friends and in private
2007-12-16 08:04:15 · update #2
He can hang out with friends and I even let him have this girl come over a couple of times a week
2007-12-16 08:22:11 · update #3
You're a single mom and he is trying to manipulate you into letting him do what he wants to do. I agree with you : give him baby food or only soft foods that don't don't need to be chewed well with a bottle of milk, take away his alllowance (baby's don't need money), Put him to bed early 7:30/8:00, and for good measure ask if he needs diapers because babies can't go potty. That should make your point pretty well. Don't do it in front of his friends though. Tell him he WILL be treated like a baby if he doesn't change his attitude. Good Luck!
2007-12-16 08:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Teresa H 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Have you asked him what he thinks you are doing that is treating him like a baby? It sounds to me that you've made your mind up that what you are doing is age appropriate, but haven't considered his feelings, nor given him the opportunity to BEHAVE more grown up...you seem to be focusing on how to punish him for complaining.
I'm not necessarily saying that what you are doing is wrong, all I'm saying is that you need to listen to what his real complaints are, and give him the opportunity to grow from them.
For example: say he thinks he should have a later bed time. Before you automatically disagree, let him give you some reasons why. Don't accept "so and so's mom lets HIM stay up til 10" but listen carefully if he says "I never give you any trouble getting up for school, but most nights I lay there for a really long time before I fall asleep." Perhaps this is a chance to get some more responsibility from him: "Well son, if you were better about getting your shower at night without being asked, and making sure all your homework gets done without being forced, I'd consider letting you stay up another half an hour."
2007-12-16 16:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow I don't even get 10 bucks and I'm 14.
Heck, I didn't even get an allowance.
I say treat him like a baby so he knows what he's talking about.
Or ask him how he thinks he's being treated like a baby.
2007-12-16 16:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by Spongeluv11 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you let him stay up later on the weekend? Maybe he is ready for extra respnsibility...let him do his own laundry...tell him "Now that you dont want to be treated like a baby...you can be responsible for this" see how he reacts...
2007-12-16 15:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and have a talk with him. Ask him why he feels this way, and ask him how you can make him feel better. Go for something reasonable, and then do it. There may be some truth to what he is saying.
2007-12-16 23:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No lol I'm 15 and i still don't do anything like household work
I'll admit I'm lazy but he will just moan more with those jobs to do let him stay up later on weekends yes but let him be free to make other decisions
sometimes little things make the biggest difference's
2007-12-16 16:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by Chris.c 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He IS a baby. He's only been on the this earth for 10 years. He's younger than some cars being driven around. Tell him that when he gets a job and can pay his own way, then he will be considered an adult....until then....suck it up and go by your rules. I used to tell my kids this and when they would yell "I hate you.." I would tell them " GREAT...then my work here is done!!"
2007-12-16 16:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by Grandma of 2 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
HAVE HIM GIVE YOU SPECIFIC EXAMPLES OF WHAT YOU ARE DOING OR SAYING, AND THEN STOP. ASK HIM WHAT EXACTLY HE WANTS YOU TO DO OR SAY TO HIM TO MAKE HIM FEEL MORE GROWN UP AND THEN DO IT IF ITS WITHIN REASON AND IF ITS NOT TELL WHY ITS NOT. AT 10 HE SHOULD BE DOING MORE AROUND THE HOUSE ANYWAY. MY SON LEARNED TO DO LAUNDRY AT 9. HAVE HIM TAKE OUT THE TRASH WHEN ITS FULL, MAKE HIS BED BEFORE SCHOOL, RUN HIS OWN SHOWER. 10 YR OLD BOYS SHOULD BE TAKING SHOWERS, NOT BUBBLE BATHS. IT WILL MAKE HIM FEEL MORE GROWN UP.
2007-12-16 17:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by Laura B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How about you start treating him like a baby, and see if he gets the differnce?
2007-12-17 15:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him how you treat him like a baby. if its something like "you embarrass me" then you tell him your treating him like a baby because he's acting like one. tell him to quit complaining and that you can treat him way more like a baby than you are now. its normal for that age. he's getting to be a big boy.
2007-12-16 17:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by :) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋