in the past it has got to him choking me but the last time i told him if he ever put his hands on me. no more i now it i a simple push but i that enough i am emotionally on a rollercoaster what makes it a bit hard is we are a very happy loving family we are great for about 6 months then we just get into an arguement that turns physical it seems to ba a pattern to were i lose respect for him and and gets difficult to look at him how do you look at him the same i guess you can say im just dumb pathetic this shouldnt even be an issue but i make it one help!!!!!!
2007-12-16 07:40:30 · 14 answers · asked by pom pom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is not ever right for a man to put his hands on a woman to hurt her. There is no reason or excuse ever good enough. If he gets angry, he needs to walk away. If you get up in his face and try to provoke him, he has the ability to pick you up, set you to the side and then walk away. I can tell you from experience that if a man will hit you once, there will always be a second time.
2007-12-16 08:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes He is an abusive boyfriend you need to leave him now! It's not healthy for you or him. He needs Help! You can't give him help, no matter how much you love this person he has some real Demons that he has to deal with. If you have children then you definitely need to leave some where safe because he could start with them next. Don't be so dumb i know your probably not but leave Trust me it's all for the better.
2007-12-16 08:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know. You were wrong for saying that,especially the fact that you were drunk yourself and so was he, but you go and say something like that, that was wayyy below the belt. He should have been more of a sound mind not to push you. But he was just as drunk as you when you said what you said. Cant really say if he was completely wrong. But this should not be a repeat ocassion. You acted and in a split second he reacted doesnt mean you should be afraid of him or think he wants to hurt you. I think you both need to monitor you alcohol intake and understand that alcoholism is hereditary, so both of you need to make changes and go to counseling for alcholism.
2016-05-24 05:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Domestic violence
Too often domestic violence is a crime that is hidden away. Domestic violence is any incident of threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between adults who are or have been in a relationship together, or between family members, regardless of gender or sexuality. Whatever form it takes, domestic violence is rarely a one-off incident. More usually it's a pattern of abusive and controlling behaviour through which the abuser seeks power over their victim.
Domestic violence occurs across society, regardless of age, gender, race, sexuality, wealth and geography. The figures show, however, that it consists mainly of violence by men against women.
Victims of domestic violence suffer on many levels - health, housing, education - and lose the freedom to live their lives how they want, and without fear.
Find out more here:
English National Domestic Violence helpline
0808 2000 247
http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/domestic_violence/index.shtml
http://www.homeoffice.gov.uk/crime-victims/reducing-crime/domestic-violence/
2007-12-16 07:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. You deserve better than that. It may not be that bad now but will become bad. What happens when you guys have kids and he does them the same way or lets them see him hurting you. They will grow up thinking that it's the way relationships are supposed to be because Mommy and Daddy does it. I would get out now before there are more factors to the relationship. There are more men out there and you can find one that respects you and treats you the way you should be treated! Good luck!
2007-12-16 07:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Irregardless of what you might say to him it is never right nor appropriate for a man to ever strike, hit or push a woman. If he choked you, he has issues that need to be dealt with. If he's not willing to seek help, then I would leave him if I were you.
2007-12-16 07:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump this loser NOW. Things will not get better, they will get worse. A REAL man NEVER puts his hands on a woman no matter how mad he gets.
You are neither dumb or pathetic, but you do lack self respect and confidence. Get out of this "relationship" before you get seriously injured............... or worse.
2007-12-16 07:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by Dirty Dave 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not have a false notion that the guy will reform.Those who resort to physical violence never reform.On the other hand they become more violent with passage of time.
You should discard him like a trash.
2007-12-17 00:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away now. Do not let him treat you like that. If he's done it once he will continue to do it unless he learns his lesson. By staying you're allowing him to continue his behavior. NO MAN is worth that. There is NEVER a reason to hit someone you're supposed to love.
2007-12-16 07:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by QWERTY 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still with this dude? Dont say because you love him, that is pathetic.
You dont need to be told by strangers that what he is doing to you is wrong and can be charged for domestic violence - your after sympathy.
2007-12-16 07:57:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋