disruptive, selfish, rude, lazy, overstepping boundaries
2007-12-16 07:04:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Sounds like a normal teen! Drives you crazy doesn't it?
If you have a fundamentally sound relationship lots of things "work". You need to start with conversation (not yelling and screaming), make sure the teen knows what is expected of him/her. Most teens really do want to do what is good and right no matter what you may have heard.
If by 'discipline' you really mean 'punishment' a lot depends on the teen and the outright misbehavior in question. The common things would be extra chores / loss of phone and computer privileges / grounding / no TV / and even an occasional spanking wouldn't be totally out of the question. If he/she is an older teen with a drivers license taking the car keys can work wonders!
Most of all have fun and love your teenager. He/she will soon outgrow the stage.
2007-12-16 07:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by J W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
really it depends. because if the person has waited until the child is a teenager to start discipline, then it's too late and it's going to be a very hard road. the discipline needs to start when the baby is little. it needs to be told the word no and learn there are consequences to actions. that makes the teenage years less difficult. but, as it is past that point, try taking away privileges, reversing locks on bedroom doors if need be, to make sure they don't sneak out, and just constant supervision. if it goes to the extreme, talk with your local sheriff's or police station about a tour of their facilities or a ride along. they can see first hand the experience they will get if they continue down the road they are heading toward.
2007-12-16 07:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by ditzi_k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I use on my boys is removal of internet privileges, pass-wording their computers, hiding their game systems, adding extra chores, etc.
They're not into the social scene, so grounding them would be pointless, they rarely go anywhere anyway, especially since the older boy broke-up with his girlfriend.
Removing whatever they most value is usually the best punishment.
However, I NEVER use removal from team sports/activities as a punishment, I don't want to punish the entire team for my child's transgressions. Once or twice the entire team had to forfeit a game when other parents used removal for a game (or more), leaving the team without enough players or without a key player.
2007-12-16 07:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by Arwen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing with teenagers (and people in general), is that you need to motivate them to WANT to improve their behavior. 90% of the time, punishing a teenager does absolutely no good. Then all they are focused on is avoiding punishment, which can be accomplished by becoming sneaky and dishonest instead of changing their bad behavior. Of course, if the teenager is doing things that are dangerous to themselves or others, then you need to take away certain privileges in order to keep them safe (e.g. driving privileges.) But for the average difficult teenager, your goal should be to make them realize why their behavior is unacceptable, what they should be doing instead, and how behaving positively will benefit themselves as well as the people around them.
2007-12-16 07:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by kt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I talked to my son's dr about this. He says, "Find the thing he loves the most and take it away until he complies with your wishes."
TX Mom
2007-12-16 08:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take away privelages for a set amount of time. taking away cimputer use or cell phone use would all but kill a tenn these days.
2007-12-16 07:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by stoopidsoonerfan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
uh yea idk nuthin
2007-12-16 07:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by Amber*Nicole=] 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋