Why Is It Considered Vain To Want A Diamond?

Question

If you can afford a diamond and like them, why is considered vain to want one. Why is it bad to say, you would not settle for anything less?

I often see questions on here debating diamond vs CZ. If someone says, " I only want the real thing" They get a thumbs down.

Why? To me, if you are getting married for the right reason and can afford a diamond, then what's making you vain?

Does anyone thing asking for a diamond isn't so bad or vain?

I'm not saying you should ask. But, lots of guys (my boyfriend included) would never buy anything less then a diamond. So, why is it vain to say, I don't like CZ.

Answer 1

I know the argument....I want a moissanite, my bf wants to buy me a diamond.

Personally, a diamond just aint my thing. His fear, however, is people will think "less of him" for buying me a "fake" diamond....even though he can afford to get me a real one.

There's these stigmas that go with diamonds. I know what you mean about the thumbs down thing, since I've asked many questions regarding fake vs. real diamonds.

There are some women who have the attitude, "My fiance would never insult me by buying me a fake" and some with the attitude, "My fiance better not blow the money on a real"

Either way, it shouldn't really matter. The ring is a promise between TWO people...and the only two people's opinions that should really matter.

I do not think people are "vain" for wanting diamonds, just as I hope people don't think I am "trashy" for wanting a fake. Hopefully one day people won't care so much about how much "bling" is in the diamond, and will look into the deeper meaning of it. Anyone can get an engagement ring....it takes a special couple to actually follow the little vows that come afterwards :)

Good question :)

-kiki

Answer 2

I do not think that it is vain. I think it is about wanting quality and it is also an investment. My husband could afford a diamond, I wanted a sapphire, because it is my favorite jewel. I think it is a personal choice on gem, price and quality. Some people would rather save money in places and feel that is alright to skimp on some things that truely matter. A real diamond will last longer and will be resilient to time, where CZ wont.
The wedding ring is a symbol of the marriage between two people do these frivolously cheap people want their marriage being represented by something fake and so cheap that it can be easily replaced (i am assuming by another cheap ring).
When in doubt always go with something that can be insured that way if something were to happen, your jeweler can make sure your real jewel is replaced, because that what the insurance is for.

Answer 3

I don't think it's vain to want a diamond as an engagement ring. What I do think is wrong is to expect your fiance to spend more than he can afford on a ring just to get you a diamond. If he can't afford a diamond then he can't afford it. The choice then is to either wait till the two of you have the money to afford a diamond ring or get a CZ. A lot of CZ's can only be told apart from diamonds by a jeweler these days. When my husband and I got engaged, he wanted me to have what I wanted. We discussed price range and then a girlfriend and I went looking since Hubby and I lived in different cities then. When I found what I wanted, I went and looked at a discount diamond place, found a very similiar diamond for much less and went back to the jewelery store where I wanted to buy it. They matched the price so then my Hubby came down and looked at it, approved it and bought it. But until he approved it, I wouldn't even put anything down on it.

Answer 4

Asking for a diamond is not vain. Insisting on a diamond is. If you tell your boyfriend you want a diamond and he gets you a CZ, chances are you wouldn't say "I won't accept this. Get me a diamond." You'll be disappointed, but thrilled at the idea of being engaged nonetheless. The thrill will definitely outweigh the disappointment. The people that refuse to take the ring or break off the relationship because it is CZ are the vain ones.

Answer 5

I don't think it vain, but I do think it rude and very wrong to demand a diamond and I don't like the attitude that some people have that it HAS to be a diamond and nothing else is good enough. I guess it is more about the attitude than the stone, it's wrong to expect or demand anything. It has never, ever been law that the engagement ring has to be a diamond, it is only in recent times and due to very clever marketing ploys from the diamond companies that make people think it has to be a diamond, I for one would rather have anything but a diamond, I just do not like them and do not see the hype, I'd rather have something meaningful to me

Answer 6

I don't think wanting a real diamond is vain. I think expecting your guy to buy something that is obviously out of his price range --particularly if you're pressuring him to give you the ring NOW, limiting his time to save--is pretty selfish.

You can get a real diamond for a reasonable price--particularly if it's small and not flawless.

I will say that while some girls will gladly accept a CZ, very few can honestly say they don't "want" a diamond...And most who don't want a diamond want a sapphire or something else!

Answer 7

I have a CZ as my center stone (and only a jeweler with a microscope can tell) but over a karat in side diamonds. A diamond center stone doesn't guarantee the wedding is going to last or that your husband is going to love you unconditionally. I'm sure that I feel move loved by my husband than many women with "real" diamonds would ever feel.

Answer 8

I don't think it is vain to want nice things for yourself. But do you know where diamonds come from? Do you know yours hasn't cost the lives and freedom of poor people in other countries? I think the diamond trade is about as ethical as the drug trade. Look into it well before you decide and try to make sure yours is an 'ethical' diamond

Answer 9

Of course not. everyone has their opinions on what's good and what's bad
It is VAIN if you go WAY OUT by getting a 3kt diamond or something crazy like that. NOw that is showing off, but to just want a diamond something pretty something simple, there is not a thing wrong with that .

Answer 10

Because being with someone who loves you unconditionally is more important than a material possession like a diamond. Shouldn't the person you love be of more value to you than a piece of carbon. You do know that diamonds are pretty common, but the people who own diamond mines limit their release into the market to keep their price up.