we have been going out for a month and 2 weeks
but he is always so "busy"as he might say.i leave him messages on myspace,telling how much i love him.but he just reads them and stays on for another hour or so just ignoring it.i wrote a extreamly long message that took me about an hour to write about we really need to hangout.he just read and ignored it.he signed on later on and didnt reply.he goes to church whenever he can,but never invites me to go.i call him and he doesnt know what to talk about.he was going to ask me out halloween night.but i couldnt go.which now that i think of it i shoulda gone cause it wouldve made it better.he doesnt invite me anywhere.and when i try to he says hes busy.hes always busy.he hasnt said he loved me in a week :[.i dont want to hurt him and i really love him with all my heart.but i am confused about him.im afraid theres someone else.so should i?
i am so confused right now.
2007-12-16 06:46:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously he doesn't care about you, I'm sorry to say, but you're sending him messages online and he's not responding to any of them, and his only excuse is "i'm busy" what kind of bf is he, no sorry for not being there lately, or I'm thinkin about u, just im busy, he's busy, busy with someone else, im sorry, i hate to put that out there, but it sounds like he is hiding everything from you and doesn't even want to be a man enough to confess the truth, and you said you love him, thats a big risk, and he obviously doesn't care, so yea, I would end that, show him that you're not that stupid, as he probably thinks you are. I think you rushed into that too fast, and he just took you for a ride, sucks cause you got emotionally involved, and thats hard, but he's not worth it, he still has growing to do and needs to learn how to treat people.
2007-12-16 07:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by AF Bound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez - you have only been going out for less than two months and you already want to take up all his free time?? You love him already with all your heart yet you barely know him?? You don't want to "hurt" him? What were you thinking of doing that might hurt him?? Just because he is not all over you 24 7 means he might have someone else??
YOU are being WAY too controlling. This guy obviously is not going to let that happen - he isn't going to let you tell him what to do or when. You have two choices - either BACK OFF, slow down, and be patient, OR, find yourself someone else.
2007-12-16 15:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I have some very serious concerns about the fact you think someone should be saying "I love you" after only one month (and two weeks) of dating someone.
Honestly, while you're wasting your time wondering why he's being shady, he's out enjoying his life. So why don't you get out there and enjoy your life too? His ignoring you is a clear indication of how things are going to be between you.
Take the hint and get away before he really hurts you. And when he calls you to hang out, be "too busy" to waste your time with him.
Good luck.
2007-12-16 14:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you he would make time for you, It sounds like it is over and maybe he has been trying to tell you by ignoring you, which is the wrong way of doing it. So find someone else who does care.
2007-12-16 14:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think yes.. Sorry :(
This is not how a relationship is supposed to be. And no matter how much you think you love somebody, if it is not mutual than it is not worth. You'll fine another guy and he will love you, spend time with you and make you feel good. That's what you need. Not somebody to make you miserable.
2007-12-16 14:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by Nadia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but it sounds like it's over & he's too much of a coward to let you know. He's just hoping you'll get the hint. Move on. Good luck.
2007-12-16 14:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As awful and confused you feel, you will just feel 100x worse if you keep going out with this guy. Everybody deserves someone that will treat them as their #1 and this guy isnt it. This guy, even if you guys had something amazing a while ago..this guy isnt for you. He obviously doesnt treat you right so if i were you i would break up w him. Its your choice though.Good luck...
2007-12-16 14:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better.if i were you id move on.there are plenty of other guys out there for you!!! SMILE, its going to get better as time goes by!!!
2007-12-16 15:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by A.F.1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask online, I think you know the answer. Move on.
2007-12-16 14:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by Smile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
breakk up with his asss! you dont need that believe me.. this isnt a one way relationship.. he needs to make an effort to make this relationship to work also. he cant leave communication up to you.. especially when your trying to talk to him and he doesnt answer.. thats justt stupiddd.. i would break up with him and dont worry about breaking his heartt.. hes breakingg yours right now and its not worth it! please take my advise and not take this nonsense anymore. break up with himmm.
hope that helped! good luckkkkk=)
2007-12-16 14:53:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋