How do I stop a pesky long-lost cousin from visiting me these Holidays?

Question

I have a cousin who lives in L.A., we seldom see each other except when SHE comes to visit ME (last time was about 4-5 years ago), and we rarely talk on the phone(maybe once every 2yrs.) and never chat, email or generally stay in touch. But, when she has come here for the summer, etc. she has a good time and -tiresome as attending relatives can be- so do I, I guess that's why she considers my city and home as a primo vacation spot (and no, I don't live in Vegas).
Thing is, she called me last week, extremely out of the blue (as I said before, after 4-5 yrs) and ANNOUNCES that she's coming down to spend the holidays with me since she got vacation from college so it's very convenient FOR HER.
Usually it would just be a "Oh crap!" moment for me and generally an annoyance, but apart from that it would be no biggie. But this Xmas and New Year's is different...(please read on)

2007 has been a tough year on my family:My only known grandma(85 y/o) has been battling breast cancer for the most part of the year,she was diagnosed in July, underwent a mastectomy and had her last round of chemo about 2 weeks ago,and maybe she's gonna lose the fight.We're SUPER close(she has been living at home with me),my brother's coming home from Germany to spend these holidays with us.My close-knit uncle (my grandama's only son)and his family are also traveling about 900 miles to be here.This year has been also tough on my aunt (my mom's only sister),she had to undergo an emergency colostomy.So the point is,we really just wanted to spend these holidays with our true loved ones an really reflect and come to terms with eveything that has happened and that will.I tried explaining all this to my cousin,she just said "Oh, so I'll ALSO have a chance to see my great-aunt too!".I invented a training in Detroit,she replied "Don't worry,I'll wait for you at your place meanwhile" WHAT 2 DO?

PS. Cousin in question is a 2nd cousin, she's also not an unreasonable immature teen; she's 22 y/o adult, I'm 27.
PPS. My mama raised me never to refuse your home to family, family is sacred to her and I really don't want to hurt any feelings and want to be as polite as possible, but HOW CAN I DO IT? I'm at the end of my rope.
PPPS. I even asked for vacations from work just to be with my close-knit family. I want to cry when I want to, laugh when I feel like it and don't want to bother with being a good host to my long-lost relative!!!
HELP!

And I just lost my job (in which I had been 4 yrs. of my carreer) yesterday...

Answer 1

you explain to her that you would love to have her around but now is just not a good time....

just tell her the situation but make sure you make her feel that you're not rejecting her because you don't want her there but because of other obvious reasons...

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Tell her there is too much going on and you cannot provide her a room this year. Stick to it and keep repeating what you said. Don't let her in your home. She probably will never ask again. Good luck.

Answer 4

Just explain to her you dont have enough room at your place and there will be no place for her to stay.....HappyHolidays