lets start of by saying my past relashinship went horribly...abusive n best friend of my ex killed my brother..now here goes my question..i met this guy he is super sweet and i love him and he loves me very much..we have alot in common..we both have a kid..mines a girl n his is a boy. we've both been hurt badly..and he knows how much i've been thru with my ex,daughter,and brother..he truly cares for me more than any guy i noe. the only problem is he lives all the way in kansas :( i love it in mexico and living with all my brothers..there the only family i have no mom or dad all i have is my brothers..but i love this guy more than anything..should i go be with him in kansas??i guesse u could say i'm scared of wat is going to happen..i'm scared to let him love me like i let my ex..im scared he'll hurt me the same way..but i luv him so much and i woudl do anything for him..i no if i never try to be with him ill neva get over being scared..so should i just give him a chance? i noe i want 2
2007-12-16 06:39:03 · 8 answers · asked by Casandra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its good your going back out into the dating world, but obviously if you are unsure about this current relationship then you probably aren't truly ready to be in a relationship. Also if you are going to go to kansas your going to have to be dependant on him, so if this reationship turns sour yu have no place to go or seek help from. My suggestion is visit him for about 2 months and then if living together seems like what it was when you first were dating, then Id go for it, but make sure you aren't excluding ur child , or your brothers.
2007-12-16 06:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by LokiandThor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want me to say "do not rush into any thing". I can't, because you already learned to love each other. That is a good thing!
You decided to fall in love with a guy who was not next door, so you already decided you were ready to move, haven't you? Why should we stand in your way?? Unless that's the answer you want???
The key to these situations is to decide early if you are practicing, for a future "boy next door", or if "you will pursue him if he is interested" in you.
It is too late, when you have invested your heart in each other; to blame geography for keeping you apart. Nothing trumps true love.
Now that you love each other, maybe you have already decided to go.
Since your ex killed your brother maybe a new location will be a good "breath of fresh air for you"! There must be bad memories for you, where you are!!!
You are the one who loves him, not me, so you have to make this call. You have looked into the window to his soul, his eyes, and you know what none of us do!!!
2007-12-16 17:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How well do you know him? If this is an internet relationship, I would say that it could be dangerous. People lie. They only tell you what you want to hear. You need to check him out thoroughly. Have him visit you in Mexico and have your brothers ask him lots of questions. You should be very careful and cautious.
2007-12-16 14:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him immediately if you feel that your life is being threatened. Call the cops if your bf is physically abusing you. It's not a good idea to stay with someone who will put you to have constant fear.
2007-12-16 14:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gotta take chances..you may regret not going..
if this is true love then go be with him..you shouldn't run from something like this..life goes by too quickly to let opportunity and love go by..
so GO!
2007-12-16 14:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by xoxo-oth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should move if your really in love and willing to take all the chances so go ahead and leave see how it is if you dont lik it go bak but it going to be hard
2007-12-16 14:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by Marlenne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, please think this out carefully - it sounds like you have never met him, and only know him from on line contacts - but he is telling you ALL the things you want to hear - sounds dangerous. Girl, he is playing on your vulnerabilities, he is prolly a middleaged perv who will really mess w your life. PLEASE please please find someone who is real, who is nearby, and who won't mess w you and your kid. You are right to be scared, you can always be worse off than you are; there are ppl out there who prey on folks like you.
2007-12-16 14:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to go to the curb, i think and move on..
2007-12-16 15:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by panamarandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋